We were 2gether for 5 months the day of his murder. He said he had a daughter named "Lavender' who lived in another city. He said he was lookin 4 someone with 'NO DRAMA or BAGGAGE'.I started my freshman year that fall, he began 2 develop insecurities about me living on campus. Accusing me of cheating, and everything else he was doing.
5 Months later he is murdered by a guy who owed him money. This shattered my world! Later I ask his mom about his kids,and she says he has NO KIDS! Instead the name "Lavender' in his cell is for a 17 yr old high school drop out 'gutta hoe' with 2 kids who weren't his by the way!This is who his was taking nude pictures of.There were also pics of him posing and smiling.
My ?'s:
1After bad relationships,& finally findin a good thing, Y do ppl stil have a '2 good 2 be true' attitude and mess it up?
2Y lie bout HAVIN KIDZ when it can be proven (Obviously)
3How 2 deal with embarrassment &, double grief, over someone that may not have been ur complety?
2006-06-22 22:41:25 · 5 answers · asked by Gifted and Gracious 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You are shocked, in some grief and embarrased too.
This man that your thought you knew tirned out to be a stranger.
His lack of openness and integrity is hurting you now.
How to deal with this? Acknowledge what has happened and accept that even people we think we know can hold things back or be deceptive.
You did yor best to get to know him.
You did not fail.
I am sure you will find love again, and a truer relationship
regards
Peter
2006-06-22 22:50:40 · answer #1 · answered by Peter H 3 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Ans 1:It depends on what type of people u are talking about.
Some people have attitude that does not change. You should not get deeply involved in it. Take your life at stride and move on. You cannot change others but you can change your perception.
Ans 2: Some people are like that cant help it.
Ans 3: Forget the past and live the present. Until there is tomorrow.
2006-06-23 05:48:53 · answer #2 · answered by Smile 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1) Everyone who knows they've messed up...wants something better.
Anyone who has a fresh start at a fresh life will probably lie about their past. Once they start to live the lie...it's pretty hard to turn back...mostly...and rightly...for the harsh judgement they'll receive from those people that seem to accept him for face value.
2 good 2B true, usually is...2 good to B true
2) Lieing about having kids...c'mon...you don't seem that naive...
Easier to say I gotta spend time with my kids than...I gotta spend time with ma freak.
3) The embarrassment and grief...it's hard and it's going to take time. Give yourself time to cry and let out the anger. And when you feel embarrassed...you have to be able to tell yourself that you do, infact, forgive yourself and ... most importantly... you have to tell yourself "it's going to be okay"
i wish you many blessings in this journey...and moments of joy to ease the pain.
2006-06-23 06:03:30 · answer #3 · answered by Warrior 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give me you mail i d
i will tell you answer
2006-06-23 05:44:33 · answer #4 · answered by gd 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
just forget about him
2006-06-23 06:21:58 · answer #5 · answered by nicegirl187smile 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋