2006-06-22 22:23:30 · 10 answers · asked by iamsmart_2287 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
NOOOOOOOOOOO.
When the marriage is really bad.......the children can see it !! They hear the yelling.......they see the other person treating you bad ! It's a horrible way for children to grow up. It's better for them to live in a peaceful home........ even if it means less money......... you brought them into this world....... let the children live in peace and happiness, please.
2006-06-22 22:27:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been through this and here is what I did. Except I had 2 kids and 1 on the way. I had already left him and I realized it was a lot harder then I thought. And being a single parent in my particular situation was worse then the relationship. I compared the pros and cons of each side and made a decision. There are some reasons to most definately not go back, drugs, alcoholism, and physical violence, if none of these are issues then you should consider it. In a 2 parent household there is more money coming in, there is more help with the kids, and you will have more free time to enjoy your children, atleast that is what I found when I did my list. There are cons to it too, so you just have to list both and then see which looks better for you and your child!!!!!!!
2006-06-23 05:36:23 · answer #2 · answered by simplyfabulous 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many people would say "YES, A CHILD NEED THE STABILITY OF BOTH PARENTS". I say, "IT DEPENDS ON THE RELATIONSHIP".
What a child really needs is strong role models and leadership. Why is the marriage rocky? Is it because of infidelity? Is it because of issues which really cannot be resolved? It that is the case, leave the marriage and find ways to be a strong role model for the child. Hopefully a better, more stable relationship will come along.
If, on the other hand, the marriage really can be salvaged with some effort from the husband and the wife, you owe it to yourselves and to your children to work it out. Show your kids that the best way to handle difficult issues is to confront them in a positive and productive way.
It IS OK to seek marriage counselling.
Compromise is ESSENTIAL in a strong and successful marriage.
Never treat your children or your spouse with any less respect than you would have them treat you and expect the same in return.
If the "spark" and "magic" are gone from the relationship, go to www.amazon.com and buy the paperback version of the book 101NIGHTS OF GRRREAT ROMANCE: HOW TO MAKE LOVE WITH YOUR CLOTHES ON.
Good luck!
2006-06-23 05:33:11 · answer #3 · answered by mgctouch 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Going back into a rocky marriage just for the sake of the child is never a good idea. You need to want to be with the person not just out of obligation. Life is too short to be miserable, do what makes you happy.
2006-06-23 06:01:56 · answer #4 · answered by kelsey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not for the sake of the children. If this something both of you want. If it is for the marriage and the relationship between a husband and wife, then yes. For the sake of the children could hurt the children worse. There not going to now what a loving, honorable relationship is. You want them to grow up knowing what a loving relationship is. Then if your not getting along you dont want them to grow up with memories of there parents being unhappy. Make the best decision that is going to put the kids in a happy loving home.
2006-06-30 00:10:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If neither of you have gone to counseling to try to work out this rocky marriage, then no - you should not go back.
Some parents stay together for the sake of the child and this can do more damage esp. if the child hears them arguing all the time.
If your spouse is willing to go to marriage counseling, then do the counseling for a while before you attempt to go back to him/her but if the spouse is not willing, then don't even bother because your life will turn to hell again.
Good Luck!
2006-06-23 05:27:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through that one also...and my honest answer is NO...it will not work and the kids are the only one suffering. I didn't follow my own advise and that what happened.
If the marrige is rocky both partners have to agree to see if it still can be safed. One is not enough.
2006-06-23 05:35:05 · answer #7 · answered by Diver4u2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
heck yes, my parents were divorced when i was concevied , and look at me! i didnt go to college, i hardly ever talk to my dad, and im an achoholic. stay together for the kids.
2006-06-23 05:27:27 · answer #8 · answered by hurleyguy182 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on if both of you really want it to work... then yes. Otherwise no.
2006-06-23 05:26:04 · answer #9 · answered by heidielizabeth69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. You can do bad all by yourself.
2006-06-23 05:29:50 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋