plz advise me what to do?

Question

i am the youngest of four sisters.My second eldest sister is getting married tomm,we are so happy for her bec she says she,s never been so happy in her whole life and that she feel like a queen with this guy.Last nite i saw my third sister ******* my future brother-inlaw.They don,t know i saw them.Ilove all my sisters,and i know definitly this will brake our bond if i must say.What do i do,it,s tearing me apart.they act like nothing happen.How long has this been going on.

Answer 1

This is what I'd think:

I'd talk to the sister that had the "affair" with your future brother-in-law. I'd tell her straight out what I saw. I'd give her the opportunity to straighten up this mess herself. Either she tells your sister to be married about it, or she doesn't. If she doesnt, you have to consider if YOU will tell her or not.

Remember this though: you will risk that you end up the hated party in this mess if you tell. You might wind up as the liar, the intrigue-maker. She might not believe you. So; If your sister will promise never to do this agian to any of her sisters - can you live with that? This solution implies that you two sisters AND the brother-in-law keeps your tounge tied for ever and ever after. Can you do that?

The reason for this is that your sister is very, very happy. If everybody can live with her never, ever get to know - it might be a good solution. The brother-in-law must of course agree and he must keep his act up. And hope he is not a habitual cheater.

On the other hand - this is a betrayal. If she ever finds out you knew and didn't tell, she'll hate the three of you - you included for not telling her, for acting behind her back.

Answer 2

Tell your sister you know about her and your future brother-in-law. Explain to her that if she doesn't tell the second oldest sister, you will be forced to because you can not keep such hurtful information to yourself.

Better your second oldest sister knows now what a son of a ***** her betrothed is than to learn years into the marriage. Imagine how you would feel if your sister and your future husband betrayed you like this.

And... If he's ******* her now, marriage will not stop it. He is a snake and your sister is a lying, betraying very poor excuse for a sister.

Now that you know this about your third sister, never leave your boyfriends or husband alone with her. Neither one of them has any morals.

You also should discuss this with your parents if they are the kind of people you can talk to. Your father might be able to handle this without you being in the middle.

Good luck.

Answer 3

Ok, if last night you saw your third sister sleeping with your future brother-in-law, who is to marry your second sister tomorrow, you have to say something now before it's too late. You cannot just ignore it. Why haven't you said anything yet? I know you love all your sisters, but the one who is going to be hurt the most--if you say nothing now--is your second sister who is going to be stuck married to a disloyal husband.

If she does not listen to you, then that's her problem; but before she ties the knot you have to say something to give her a warning at least. This guy is obviously not honest with her and is giving her false hope. She'll be more hurt in the future if you say nothing. It is up to her to listen to you or not.

Answer 4

This is a really tough situation and sounds like something that no one should have to go through it is very terrible. If I was you i would go directly to my sister and let her know you know, then go to the furture brother in law and let him know and then go to your sister who is marring her once a cheater always a cheater, dont let your sister be hurt by her other sister or anyone else, stand up for what is right or you will fall for anything

Answer 5

It is seems live like together in a house. Should be separate house. It is nobody false. Because no one can resist pressure of love.(May be pressure of sex.) No need to cry, No need blame any one. But not good for human society. Ask your second sister to make him exhausted on her.Then try to your third sister to separate house or separate live with them.You are lucky because I am so free in this time.

Answer 6

If you tell what you saw those two may just deny it. If you don't say anything your other sister is sure to find out on her own in due time. If think your sister trust and will believe you I would go ahead and tell her. If you don't think she will believe you it might be best to say nothing.

Answer 7

That's ****** up... i think for you sister that getting married, i'd tell her the truth, i know, i have two older brothers, the oldest was getting married, and the middle was making out with her, and i told my bro, WEDDING WAS OFF! If they cheat once, there always going to, help your sister out, rat the other sis out!!!

Answer 8

Oh My GOD!!!!!

You have to tell this up!!!!! even will hurt your second eldest sister.
but it is better than she will find out latter will hurt her much more.
besides,...you will never let her married this bustard, wouldn't you??!!
And this bustard will not make the marriage works!!!
He will cheating on her again,..again...and again since the first have done, will have,.the second....next. He is a cheater!!!

What have your third sister doing??!!! she is totally nuts destroyed her own sister's happiness?????

Answer 9

THATS A REALLY TOUGH ONE. I THINK I WOULD CONFRONT THE SISTER THAT WAS DOING THE BROTHER IN LAW 2 BE AND HIM TOO ,SEE WHAT KIND OF EXPLANATION THEY HAVE FOR YOU AND ALSO WHAT KIND OF PERSON IS YOUR SISTER WHO COULD DO THAT TO ANOTHER SISTER, AND HOW WOULD THE BRIDE 2 BE FEEL IF SHE MARRIED THIS GUY NOT HAVING ALL THE INFORMATION, I WOULD PUT IT OUT THERE AND LET THE BRIDE DECIDE IF SHE WANTS TO FORGIVE HIM

Answer 10

I think there is no other choice than telling this to your sister. Otherwise, you will regret not telling for the rest of your life. Besides, this sounds like an imaginary question just like some of my questions. :)