what's the longest time you've stop talking to your mother?

Question

Do you think you ever will be able to ? Is it better for you this way?
I'm going on 2 years so far - don't see any reconcilliation

Answer 1

I have a great relationship with my mum! Although she hasnt spoken to her own mum for about 4 years but I completely understand why (very personal matter). If you are happy not talking to your mum dont worry, its not a crime, there is obviously a good reason for it.

Answer 2

If it's obviously playing on your mind this much maybe you should attempt a reconciliation. Just remember if things don't work out it was you that made the effort and if you have to walk away again because she is being unreasonable or can't let the past go then that's what you have to do. Sounds callous I know but it should put your mind at ease. Take things easy just don't show up as if eveything is hunky dory and nothing has happened. I know it's a cliche but time can be a great healer but in some people it just allows ill feelings to fester. As i said before put yourself out there and if she knocks you back it's her loss at the end of the day, let her know you'll always love her and if she wants the wonderful son/daughter she lost in the future you will always be there.

Answer 3

18 months. It was during that time when I decided to get a divorce, she did not agree because she is a very traditional person. She did not want to listen to any explanation as to why I wanted a divorce, when I moved back home, she threw my luggage out of the house, insisting that I must go back to my matrimonial home.
Personally to my point of view, whatever my mother does, is always with good intention. But she is that type that always do the right thing at the wrong time and the wrong thing at the right time.
18 months later, I visited her because I need to speak to her about my second marriage, then she ask me calmly what happened to my first marriage, when I told her that my ex was fooling around when I was pregnant, I can actually see that she was controlling her tears, ( I know she has regretted throwing my luggage out), but I told her I can understand why she does that, everything she does was out of love and with good intention.
She insisted of seeing my present husband first before she agree of me getting married again.
Now, I have 17 years of happy marriage, and my mother love my husband very much, whenever she goes shopping the very first thing she buy is always for my husband, not to mention she has 2 other son-in-laws.

Answer 4

How could you not talk to your mother!!! I might have an argument with mine and take a couple of days to cool off but the thought of not speaking to the person who created you is too much! Your mother should be the one person on this earth who is your support for life. What is more interesting is why isn't your mother talking to you?.... Whatever the problem it needs to be sorted now... Not being able to talk to your mother has serious mental health implictions I think.

Good luck! Take the first step

Answer 5

Hi,
Sometimes you think your mother does not listen nor understand you, that is quite normal, because the age gap....
She is just waiting for you to be prepared to accept that both have different personalities. She may also has understood on these years that you need respect, and that you are free to think and to do whatever you want.

I think two years are enough to start again.

Just call her to have a cup of tea or something as normal, as if you haven;t ever stop talking.

Hope this helps

Answer 6

My mother and I are so alike that we argue if we spend too long in each others company (more than a few days) but as we are both quite fiery we tend to have a big fight then it's forgotten. I think 3 days is the longest so far without speaking, then she called me about something really funny and we forgot we weren't speaking.

Answer 7

You can pick your friends and your nose but you can't pick your family!!
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Only do it if you need to to stop feeling like crap. Don't do it if you can't figure out a way to not let her bother you. In other words nobody can answer this question properly but you.

- If you can live without speaking to her and will not suffer or feel bad about this than you don't need to

- If you speak to her only out of guilt and then she will just hurt you gain than what's the point?

- If you can overlook her weaknesses and character flaws and have a relationship with her where you understand that she can't help but be nasty because she is wacko or a bit deranged than you can be her child. But it means you have to be the bigger person and not give in to her garbage and toxic personality

- Also, what is it that happened that you don't talk? It really matters and so this is why you have to decide.

I pretty much didn't speak to my mother and father for 6 years or so. It made me a better person. I talk to them now but keep them out of my mind when they try to do what they used to. I love them but don't take what they say to heart. We are not the same at all.

But like I said, I don't know what she did so you need to think about that. I hope this helps.

Answer 8

prob only an hour or two! do talk to her - mothers are not here forever - mines not - so please make up, lives too short and u will regret it for the rest of your life if u lose the chance - remember we are not promised tomorrow!
just ring and say hi and that u missed her and who knows, maybe u will both form a better relationship - the bond is there and cannot be broken - shes your mum - do it!

Answer 9

The only way you could have peace of mind is to make peace with her. Everybody have a mistake even you. some people mistake are bigger than others and our fingers aren't even either. I used to have problem with my mother longer than you but I think its stupid and you need to make up with her. After all, she carried you in her womb for 9 month or plus. She could have kill you then. Think about that and also that the only way you love how to love women. Rumember you only have one mother.

Answer 10

7 years and do I regret it YES, but we didnt have mutual respect for each other.when I had a child of my own only then did I realize that parents generally act like they do sometimes because they care but dont know how to show it.Lets face it you are not given any lessons in how to be a parent its supposed to come naturally in my opinion its more trial and error.So try a clean slate as I did and remember you only do get ONE mum and shes worth fighting for.Good luck.

Answer 11

Probably didn't talk to mine for about 8 years but at the end of the day it's all pretty pointless.

The reconciliation was hard but you just have to put it behind you and forget about it. You obviously want to otherwise you wouldn't be asking the question.

Good luck.