How did you overcome jealousy?

Answer 1

Jealousy is rooted in a lack of self confidence. If you feel the person whos with you is just there til someone better comes along, this is insecurity, which breeds jealousy.

Some women will tell you they like a jealous man, but they dont want one who wants to know theyre every move, whothere with 24 hours a day, etc. Trust me this gets old.

Have confidence in yourself. Once you do, people will naturally be attracted to you. How do you GET confidence in yourself? Try to do something youve NEVER attempted before (some SAFE activity- Im not talking about rattlesnake handling or something). The confidence you feel from achieving something you thought you couldnt do is fantastic and though YOU might not notice a difference in how you carry yourself everyone else WILL notice.

Once you feel confident in yourself, you will realize how sick a disease jealousy is, and you will alos realize you can do without that kind of sickness in your life.

Answer 2

I broke up with the girls that made it all too easy to become jealous!

There is a difference between girls & women... depending on your age, you will sooner or later find this out. The difference is that some girls are just young-minded & aren't sure where they want to end up... not sure of what they want... women know a little better what they want & really what they don't want. Fewer games!

I just bring these up as examples of how jealousy can develop... in a relationship jealousy can grow if one or the other doesn't make the other feel comfortable & trusting... Respect for one another prevents feeling jealous. If you're jealous for dumb reasons, then you need to get over it, or leave your significant other alone to find someone more secure, if you care about them.

Answer 3

Jealousy is nothing more than desiring another's advantage(s). Once you stop desiring what they have, then you've overcome jealousy.

The best way that I can think of to overcome jealousy is to get on a path of being happy with what you have. It's okay to expect more, but they need to be personal expectations.

Answer 4

I was never jealous. If she is with me then that's because she wants to stay with me. The moment she messes around then it means she doesn't want to be with me and if that's the case what can I do, I can't MAKE HER want to stay with me.
I couldn't be with someone who isn't reliable so the moment I see she's messing about that is it.
I might be angry that I wasted my time but not jealous, what's the point.
If she's jealous I feel offended that she doesn't trust me and if she doesn't trust me then there isn't much point in staying together as I am 100% reliable and she can't see that then she must be dense or messed up which are two things which I hate in a partner so it's over I am afraid. Either way jealousy doesn't exist.
Basically it;'s easier to trust your partner than it is to go with any partner and then construct a cage around them and suffer all the time. let them free so you know you have something that's true and not forced.
I find that very nice looking women are too much work to be with for this very reason, they are used to compliments and men wanting to F**k them all the time so they expect you to be asserting yourself all the time, or they have a right to go with the first stud with the most colourful feathers that's not how I want to live my life and I have been known to encourage them to do the deed and stop wasting my precious time on this earth :-) That's my take on jealousy.

Answer 5

Age..........it sounds like yea right, but I have found now that I am older.....jealousy is at its all time low. Possibly it could come with experiences in life, what is worth it, what isn't. Jealousy is an awful emotion that can literally eat you alive.....and usually you are the only one at the time it is gnawing away at. Become the boss of your emotions - You control the emotions in your life not the other way around, believe me you will become a much happier person!

Answer 6

Jealousy is an emotion that only You can control. Analyze yourself to find out what would make you jealous. Seek out the answers for yourself and try not to let this emotion control you. If you let it take over you'll be a very miserable human being!

Answer 7

Good question... You can not fight a spirit that work in the flesh with the flesh and jealousy is a spirit. Jealousy is the work of the flesh but it’s rooted in a spirit. So ask God to take away and replace it with the fruits His spirit.

For love is as strong as death, Jealousy as cruel as the grave; Its flames are flames of fire, A most vehement flame.

Answer 8

WELL JEALOUSY IS AN UGLY MONSTER. YOU HAVE TO BE COOL AND ACT LIKE YOU'RE NOT TRIPPING. OF COURSE EVERY SITUATION IS DIFFERENT. BUT IF I FEEL JEALOUS YOU WON'T KNOW IT UNLESS I WANT YOU TOO.

SOMETIMES MY JEALOUSY IS JUSTIFIED. SOMETIMES IT'S PURPOSELY PROVOKED. NOW IF IT'S ON PURPOSE I'LL ACT LIKE I DON'T GIVE A DAMN. YOU JUST HAVE TO RESPECT YOURSELF ENOUGH SO THAT YOU DON'T LET THE OTHER PERSON KNOW YOU'RE FALLING APART AT THE SEAMS.

IT'S UGLY I SWEAR. BUT IT'S NATURAL TO FEEL JEALOUSY ONCE IN AWHILE. TRY NOT TO OVER REACT, CHANCES ARE YOU'RE MAKING A MOUNTAIN OUT OF A MOLE HILL.

Answer 9

The only thing that brings me out of it is a saying that is so true.

"LIFE IS NOT FAIR"

God gave us each so many talents and it is up to us what we do with them. Even in the Bible he gave each a different amount. The one guy chose to bury his knowing his Lord was a firm task master, thus they didn't grow and prosper. I think of that parable and know life isn't fair. There will always be someone richer than me, someone more beautiful...but dang my theory is all you get to keep in life is the memories so go make some good ones.
Life isn't fair but I got some memories that would make you jealous...grin.

Answer 10

I came to realise that jealousy is like poison, it spreads and then the whole thing is spoiled. I tried to look past my own paranoid fears and stopped projecting those fears on to my b/f. He had done nothing wrong, it was all in my head and I stopped imagining things that had not happened. Now I enjoy being with him and our relationship is peaceful.