im 26 yrs old now. when i was 17 i had a boyfriend who i knew i was goin to get married to. unfortunatly when we were going out for 4 months he died in a freak car accident. i still think about him up to this day. i just wish i could hug him and kiss him one more time. the problem now is that im going out with someone who reminds me so much of my boyfriend that died and im so scared that im going to lose him also, especially now that he has asked me to marry him. for the first time i have become so insecure and jelouse in a relationship i feel like im going mad. please help!!!
2006-06-22 20:49:38 · 5 answers · asked by malibu 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
These are perfectly natural feelings.Do not let these feelings stand in your way because they could harm a good relationship.Unfortunately there is no way to bring him back,Yes you did love him but to make this relationship work,it is going to take you letting go of those feelings.I cannot tell you how to do this but I can say find the good things in this new guy.you say he reminds you of him,well find the good things that are different.If you really love each other then you can do this.release any thing that you are holding on to that is keeping you from moving forward.He probably wanted to see you happy.since he cannot be here to do it for you,It is up to you go out there and make the best of it.I have always beleived in god and I know that god works miracles.Yes,sometimes things do not go our way.We all lose loved ones and it hurts for a while but I know god has plans for each of us.Maybe he sent you this new love as a way to show you the light and have someone to comfort you.Look to the good.
God bless and you are in my prayers
2006-06-22 21:07:39 · answer #1 · answered by jlthomas75844 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Life is to short to worry about things you have no control over, Get on with the things you can control and never forget those lost and loved. And if you find you worry to much about things theres always the medical approach, Mild anxiety drugs and whatnot. An inbalance of chemicals in the brain can cause all kinds of feelings or unwanted emotions, But only you and a doctor can figure that out, just be open.
2006-06-22 21:05:02 · answer #2 · answered by bradford99336 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just hope your in love with HIM and not the thought of your long lost love. I also think (if you hadn't already) you need to see a councelor or some kind of therapist about your thoughts of your boyfriend who died. You may have not accepted it fully and have emotional ties still to his memory. I think that would be the best thing to do before tying the knot just yet. You may be able to put the past behind you, but of course still have a special place for your highschool sweetheart. Your new guy needs ALL of you in order to make the marriage work. Good luck!
2006-06-22 20:57:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
feel for your predicament....ur emotions and feelings are very real considering the pain you went through in the pst..
but i think u shoud try your best to be less paranoid and value the relationship that you have with yoru current bf. i dont know what it must feel like to have someone you love be torn away from you in such a tragic manner but i think you've been really strong even in dealing with things.
anyway, try not to worry about things you dont have control over. who's to say what willhappen? but instead of worrying about things that MIGHT happen, and that posisbly exists for ALLL of us here on earth, lets cast that aside and focus on what we DO HAVE. love your boyfriend and value him and take care of him.
take good care...God bless you
2006-06-22 21:56:27 · answer #4 · answered by GEN Gamer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
marry him!you lost 1 b4.dont let this one go on purpose.
2006-06-22 20:55:39 · answer #5 · answered by coreng 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋