Every time, I try to discuss some topics or raise some issues, he is unhappy and complains that I am 'arguementative' while I think I just have different opinions. Should I keep quiet in the future just to keep him happy?
2006-06-22 20:13:25 · 16 answers · asked by Green2006 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you never eat will you not be hungry??? A person can not be part of a real relationship without communication. Maybe he feels you support your "side" better than he supports his own opinion. He may feel weak. Reassure him that these are your feeling on a subject and require no action on his part. Allow him his "argumentative comments" but at the same time reassure him that it is important to you, as a partner, to feel free to voice your opinion in matters as well...hang tough, we all have hang-ups.....;)
2006-06-22 20:21:10 · answer #1 · answered by wndymrrs1969 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
You sound so much like me!
ln the beginning of the relationship,you used to talk a lot and never had problems with disagreements,right?
Now you've been together awhile and his lack of responsibility is beginning to bother you.
YOU do everything and he doesn't even understand what needs to be done.And this has a way of sneaking into your conversations because you're not confrontative on the issues that are really bothering you but you unconsciously let out some steam when ''expressing your own opinion ''on apparently trivial issues.
Right?
Stop frustrating yourself,dear.
Smile and laugh at his jokes,listen to him quietly,make love to him.Agree with him if possible,but disagree with a smile if not.
Then face him squarely on issues you're not comfortable with.You can't keep quiet forever.
He'll be more responsive to the big issues if you've been responsive on the little ones.
2006-06-23 08:52:50 · answer #2 · answered by Emma Woodhouse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No hun...you should never keep quiet...we are all entitled to an opinion...and part of being in a relationship is to share together...maybe your partner lacks self esteem and by criticising you he is making himself better...or maybe he just does not realise he is doing it...try to talk with him, be honest and work towards sorting this issue out before it becomes a real problem in your relationship
2006-06-23 03:27:28 · answer #3 · answered by amelia_madeline 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in that situation with my ex. For years. He wanted me to agree with him on everything. In my opinion, a relationship where both always agree is stagnant. That's one of the many reasons he's now my ex. You are a human being with a right to your emotions and opinions. Don't let anyone stifle your freedom of thought. You don't have to be violent to express a different opinion, but if you never have the right to say what you think about anything, it's a kind of slow death.
2006-06-23 03:18:56 · answer #4 · answered by Muddy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you must not let him dominate. it's his problem that he can't accept differences. all men try to control in one way or another but you teach them how to treat you. your bf is being a bully and won't respect you keeping your mouth shut. i would say he has some real issues tho. my ex was like this and it wore down my self-esteem. i had to get out of the relationship as i began to realise he had compulsive behaviour. what a shame you can't have a conversation with him! it won't work long term so you are storing up some heartache. they never change!
2006-06-23 04:15:36 · answer #5 · answered by minerva 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope you are not married to him yet. Your partner is a big ego man, to much pride and male chauvinist. Keeping quiet might not mean he will be happy but it will definately make you unhappy. He should learn to respect your views.
2006-06-23 03:22:05 · answer #6 · answered by Sandyjsp 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's best to talk to him about how you're feeling cause if you don't, sooner or later it will come in between the two of you. It's hard for a relationship to work if the two people can't discuss things together.
2006-06-23 03:21:46 · answer #7 · answered by ummm 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has different opinions and everyone has the right to voice them, i don't think that you should sit there and not have your say, maybe your b/f needs to learn the art of conversation and learn not to take offence to things just because you have a different point of view.
2006-06-23 03:56:54 · answer #8 · answered by BOO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never, always make it a point to share your opinions with your boyfriend. It's not fair to agree to disagree, while this may be easier, but if your opinions aren't important, the person making opinions must not be as well.
2006-06-23 03:19:55 · answer #9 · answered by Brian 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make yourself happy. that's what really counts. this guy doesn't sound very supportive. you have the right to your opinion. Argumentative is not necessarily bad either. You should be proud of who you are and what you think. Don't let anyone take that away from you.
2006-06-23 03:18:24 · answer #10 · answered by Kate 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋