what do you think,if your thinking mathches with mine,you will get 10 points
2006-06-22 20:02:47 · 20 answers · asked by Riya 2 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
It depends on what you want out of life (or marriage). My first reaction to this question is love, but having been through a love marriage and hurt terribly I would have to say an arranged marriage would be better. It is not uncomfortable in the long run. you always know where your place is and what you are supposed to be doing. No feelings are involved so you cannot get hurt. Its just a job which sounds terrible, but let's face it once the intial lust, 'in love', infatuation wears off in a even the best of relationships it gets boring and monotonous for both a man and a woman and unless you have a really loyal man(they don't exist) he's looking elswhere for that spark. (In an arranged marriage if he's looking who cares, if he is ugly you might want him to be looking? You've got what you need and thats that and if he isn't treating you right you can complain and be listened to. hopefully) Your parents know you better than anybody and they are probably friends with your husband to be's parents and that makes it a good situation. sometimes aranged marriages end up being love relationships also. I wish someone would arrange my marriage. know anyone?
2006-06-22 20:23:03 · answer #1 · answered by jenna-a 2 · 4⤊ 5⤋
even though are parents thinks they know us and want the best for us. They can't choose who we should married. Arrange married is wrong to me because if you don't love that person it going to feel like a job. That you have to. I learning the hard way about love. And If you love someone you do anything for them and i think that love that reaches your soul, you know it. You want to get up at 5:00 in the mourning to cook you lover breakfast. love marriage as a strong way of stay together then arrange marriage. A lot of time arrange marriage in the end are not all that happy then love marriage. I would give anything to have love marriage where it 50/50 and the feeling are the same. You never know what life is like. you have to keep going but arrange marriage if there no love i don't see how they can have a family and raise their children right.
2006-06-23 03:17:11 · answer #2 · answered by Marthia A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is a lifetime association which involves a lot of things - sacrifice, love, understanding, commitment, considerateness, compromise, selflessness, sincerity (in all ramifications), truthfulness and trust among others.
Either it is an arranged marriage or love marriage, all these ingredients which are of very important must be evidently visible always, for the association to be successful.
I hold the strong opinion that all the ingredients are equally important and without which the marriage will crumble, but will place sincerity first in order of priority. Thus, arranged marriage or love marriage both are good and ok, but if one of these qualities are not considered in arriving at the marriage decision, then such marriages will fail.
2006-06-23 03:59:49 · answer #3 · answered by lara123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At this point....I'm thinking arranged. :) Being single for long periods of time with no hope SUCKS.
Probably a love marriage. I don't think you can force feelings...what if you get an arranged marriage and you never fall in love? Then you miss the thrill of dating and finding that special someone.
2006-06-23 03:41:32 · answer #4 · answered by sayhello 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love marriage is better,because you with the person you love and you want to spend the rest of your life with.You actually got to get to know the person and you feel that you have connected to the point where it feels that you want to marry the person.
Arranged marriages are not all that good,because the person you are supposed to marry you know nothing about and you have never gotten the chance to get to know them.You and that person may never get along,you have nothing in common and could end up separating. That's why I think love marriages are better.
2006-06-23 08:43:14 · answer #5 · answered by JF. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you want arranged. Historically even up to now, arranged marriages actually fair better because it requires two people to maximize use of communication skills. By throwing total strangers together they are forced into knowing each other and eventually grow on each other.
Love marriages are so strained and complex and filled with so much fluff along the way to building a solid foundation. But I think its worth it.
There are pros and cons to both as with anything.
2006-06-23 03:09:11 · answer #6 · answered by kitt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I prefer a love marriage arranged by God. After all, we're supposed to first of all love God with all our heart, soul and strength...(1) And the love for the other person should arise out of 'loving one's neighbor as oneself" (2). Even if you do this having no feelings for someone, eventually you'll start to have feelings once you accumulate that "critical mass" of loving decisions and loving actions. On the other hand...
Unless the Lord builds the house, its builders labor in vain. (Psalm 127:1)
What therefore God has joined together, let no man put asunder. (Matthew 19:6)
That may or may not be your thinking in the matter, but first of all I don't know you or your thinking, and secondly, even if I did, I'm not going to write something I don't believe just to 'get my 10 points'...
May God bless you
2006-06-23 03:23:09 · answer #7 · answered by songkaila 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yo dudette, Its kind of a debateable question but i really go with the answer Kittyikes gave, She is right. An arranged marriage is more exciting as you take time to know the other person, in love you know the person but when after marriage they start to change you cant take it. In arranged you dont expect if its good then you welcome it, if its bad you try to make it right in love it hurts when you get something unexpected..
2006-06-23 06:38:11 · answer #8 · answered by Sabrina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that the latter can turn into the former. i think that in any marriage, arranged or love matches, what has to be there for it to work is love, respect, and mutual trust. those three elements combined will either make or break any marriage, no matter what the manner of conception. i think also communication, in any marriage, is vital. open and honest communication will keep any marriage happy and healthy.
2006-06-23 03:08:21 · answer #9 · answered by kelleygaither2000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think love marriage is good. Because you cant have a feeling love with whom u dont like. Arrang marriage is the past. i think so.
2006-06-23 03:08:12 · answer #10 · answered by minh duc l 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋