my partner is fabulous but has got a fair few hairs on the tp lip which quite frankly are putting me off. What do women do about this..and how can i raise the subject (i tried once and oh dear...)..so am thinking that she was sensitive as it cant be changed. Help! Advice appreciated!
2006-06-22 20:01:13 · 23 answers · asked by UK Lewis 1 in Beauty & Style ➔ Skin & Body
It depends whether you are objecting to the look or the feel? If it is the look (ie it is a black tarantula on her lip) she may just prefer to bleach it.
If it is the feel, then waxing is the way to go.
However, it is unlikely that she is not aware of the topiary, and you could be entering a world of pain, depending on her personality.
This even sounds a bit harsh to me, but I think a voucher for a beauty salon would be a good idea (you don't want her doing a home job,it being sore and her never doing it again!) but you need to buy her a massage and have a word with the salon girls asking them to ask her would she like a "free" wax/bleach while she's there. This is if she is a sensitive or hippy soul. If she does the waxing bit anywhere else its a bit easier, tell her you love the smoothness of a waxed lip and you could kiss her for days etc etc
Good luck I think you may need it!! (ps no shaving whatever happens. Or you may end up feeling just that little bit gay kissing all that stubble!)
2006-06-22 23:14:13 · answer #1 · answered by zara c 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Being a partner means sharing love, respect and trust. you need to see where you two stand in all these three. If you trust each other enough then telling her in a matter of fact way should be the best option, after all you would tell her if her lipstick were put wrong! if you cannot tell her directly taking her to some spa where they will do it is a good idea...asking her friends is a bad one, why should you two require other people to communicate with each other!
The way i look at it , it is a chance for you to let her know that you care for her enough to take risks of telling her the things she might not like to hear!
2006-06-23 09:34:11 · answer #2 · answered by sally 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Disassociate yourself from any repugnance you may feel. If she had a cut finger you would matter of factly suggest she gets a band aid. Matter of factly suggest she waxes her upper lip. Be very casual about it, as if you do not care, except for her. I had a similar experience once and this approach worked. Just make sure she thinks *your* sensibilities are not top of the agenda. I would strongly discourage making a Big Thing about it like buying her vouchers, involving someone else or sending her to a Spa, unless that is something you would do normally.
2006-06-23 03:24:57 · answer #3 · answered by dws2711 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe laser treatment is a permanent and painless option. Surf the net and look for a centre in your area that provides the service. Get brochures and material about hair removal for her to read up on. Let her have the info so she can make the decision, not you. Its her face and she should decide whether or not she wants to remove it. You found her attractive despite that. Would you ask her to dye her hair say 20 years from now because she was greying? If your answer is yes, then you have a problem not her.
2006-06-23 03:42:54 · answer #4 · answered by Princess Lueji 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter what you say, you are going to hurt her feelings. Ask her if its hormonal then suggest in a nice way (if that's possible) to bleach it or even get it waxed. Don't make her feel like a man!! Maybe you could treat her to vouchers to a local beauty parlour that specialises in hair removal. Given as a gift, it might not seem so bad and she can have other things done!
2006-06-23 03:08:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, Nicki on big brother was waxing her top lip in front of the nation yesterday, That would have been an Ideal time to mention it!
I think you will just have to say something like " you know i really love you and I dont want to embarress you or hurt your feelings but...will you wax your tash" or something like that. She is gonna feel bad at first but there is no way round it.
2006-06-23 03:37:56 · answer #6 · answered by ripple 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay dear the girls always want that his partner accept with all her bad thing. huh but tell her to remove this disgusting thing (or search for another partner. look around you, hopefully you will find a brand new one :) with silky skin with no hair) it depends upon your mutual understanding but talk to her when both of you are alone and doing some fun and tell here gently about the her moustaches or hair whatever try this when kissing her this might work :)
2006-06-23 03:29:16 · answer #7 · answered by Faisal Yousuf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nair, Wax, laser hair removal. There are a couple of ways. Just kinda bring it up to her. Ask her to take care of the problem and then quickly change the subject.
2006-06-23 03:06:20 · answer #8 · answered by kitt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetie, body hair is a sensative subject with us. try to be a little more tactful. send her for a beauty treatment or something. i find the top lip hair is the best bet. it does not get rid of it, it just lightens it. if she shaves it, it will just grow back darker and more course.
hope that helps.
2006-06-23 04:19:08 · answer #9 · answered by farytopia89uk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buy her a day at the spa. This way she will be happy with you, and you will be happy b/c the esthetician will do the job of telling her for you.
Most spas do a special for first time to a spa, and full or partial day treatments.
2006-06-23 03:29:36 · answer #10 · answered by glass_art123 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋