How can I stop getting angry?

Question

OK so, I get angry wen most of the time my parents make as if I do all my work wrong and give me "names" like (good-for-nothing and so on ...)!!!

Answer 1

You can't. Anger is an inevitable instinct.

Answer 2

First, remember that a tense situation may not be an angry situation. Take a deep breath when u see the signs coming. Then think if it's worth it. Getting angry certainly does not do the body good.

Recognise the type of personality that is prone to anger. It's a
no-brainer, say the experts. These people have low thresholds in dealing with frustration, pain and failures. Being angry and lashing out at others is the only way they know to vent their feelings. By understanding their psychological make-up, we are less likely to be angry when they get mad with us.

Do not argue with a person who is angry. Whatever he is saying or shouting, refuse to talk back. If it's a peer, walk away. If it's your boss, just answer in short, monosyllables, in a soft voice. This makes it difficult for him to find fresh material from your answers to get angrier.
Avoid trigger-happy situations, i.e. situations that trigger an eruption of anger, such as confronting someone who has made you hopping mad. Take a break 1st.

Learn how to communicate better by conveying your msg across without too much emotions.

No one is a saint, you can learn to control but no way u can eliminate anger. Always think think think before you say or act. Don't be afraid of losing face - just because you have already started it, and u dun want to put ur pride down so u continue.
If u realised, just stop, it'll nv get worst.
Good luck~

Answer 3

You didn't say what you are getting angry at, but first of all, examine your diet. You should be eating lots of fresh raw fruits and fresh raw vegetables and not so much animal protein; nothing prepared (like soup in a can), and avoid drugs OF ALL KINDS. Avoid sugar and caffeine, and check with a doctor to see if you have any food allergies that may cause you to break out in anger. Studies show that improper nutrition causes anger, rage, and behavioral problems in people of all ages.

Next, anger is caused by a lot of things, but underneath the anger is a wish for someone to love you. If you are having problems in a relationship and feel the other person doesn't listen to you (therefore saying you aren't important), you will be mad a lot. Too much stress, or not dealing with stress effectively, can cause anger. You might want to contact a psychologist in your city for some guidance, and if you don't like him or her, shop around until you find somebody you like and can trust. Most professionals offer a sliding scale fee based on what you make and what your expenses are.

Lastly, whether you believe in God or not, prayer is very effective in dealing with everyday stress that can cause anger to surface.

Remember that anger is not always necessarily a bad thing. People who never show temper are frequently seen as being pushovers, so a little controlled temper can prevent people taking advantage of you. The key word is "controlled", meaning you don't hit people unless you are forced to use self-defense. A psychologist can help you learn when anger is appropriate.

Answer 4

Anger is a symptom telling you that there is something fundamentally wrong with your life ... you'll keep this until you recognize the underlying cause of the anger and then work to resolve the issues you've acknowledged.

Baby-steps:

1. Meditate (shut-up::: Shut-UP ::: SHUT UP) ... turn off the television, computer, phones, family, friends ... and just silence your mind.

2. Exercise ... focus your aggression on stuff like: Kick - Boxing, Weightlifting, Skating, Swimming ... anything that will spend your energy ::: AVOID STEROIDS!!! They make you real mean and then turn you into a crybaby.

3. During intense anger spouts ... Take all your energy and tense (shrug) your shoulders real tight ... hold ... take a deep breath ... release ... repeat as many times as necessary (typically 10 times).

Answer 5

anger is a situation in which we loose our consiousness. to controll anger you sholud drink a glass of cold water when angry,you should close ur eyes and think about something else which gives u relaxation or makers u happy,ignore what ever the other person is saying,and for god's sake never answer back if u r angry with a person elder to u. frankly speaking i also do the same what i have told u.

Answer 6

Well, it really depends on WHAT you are getting angry about, and since you didn't specify it is hard to say. There is anger and there is righteous anger. Where you get angry about injustices committed. If you are confident with yourself and your self-esteem is high, you will be less angry about things. Work on building your confidence and self-esteem.

Answer 7

The best thing is that for you to sit them down and tell them that u are really hurt by their comments, and you'd appreciate it more if they would show some support.....
As of anger, try to vent it out through a sport or something....and when you are faced with something that triggers your anger, breathe deaply.....and exhale slowly....
Good Luck

Answer 8

SEE FIRST OF ALL YOU HAVE TO CALM DOWN AND GET AWAY FROM THE SITUATION YOU ARE PUT IN FOR GETTING YOU ANGRY. IMMEDIATELY DRINK ONE OR TWO GLASSES OF COOL WATER THEN WATCH
GETTING ANGER IS A SORT OF VIGOROUS FEELING FOR A HUMAN BEINGS. ALWAYS USE YOUR SENSE AND TALK AND DO SLOWLY YOU WILL COME OUT OF THIS STAGE OF ANGER.

Answer 9

How do you stop Hungry.....puting something on it and by you make it cool......likethat you need put something on Angry........in India we called this as MEDITATION......just try with sincere efforts and then see the miracles.....it happens to millions of people across the globe for many thousand years.

Answer 10

Take a deep breadth, think before you start to blow your top.
Try visualization. Of calm seas or cool mountain or slowly flowing water in the brook.

Answer 11

stop being with the ones or doing things that make you angry.