My family doctor told me today that, at my age and maturity that I should not be looking at together forever anymore, I should thinking about just being together for a short time. I believe in happily ever after and I still believe in loving with all my heart. So I put it to you out there. What do you think??
2006-06-22 19:54:08 · 12 answers · asked by c_d_carrier 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What makes your doctor an expert in love? Is this doctor a relationship therapist? Does he/she have specific training in this area? What makes them qualified to suggest what you should or shouldn't persue in a relationship?
Nevermind what your doctor tells you. What do you want? How much are you willing to settle for, or will you settle? Finding the perfect partner can take a lifetime, some people never do.
It could be your doctor simply thinks your standards are too high. But if you're anything like me, then you simply won't settle for anything less than what you feel you deserve, and no I don't mean materialistically.
You deserve to be loved, to be treated with respect and kindness and to be revered as an equal. You deserve to be with someone who wants you to be successful in everything you do, someone who will challenge you and encourage you to grow. You deserve all the romance your heart desires. Why should you settle for anything less?
If the objective is to reproduce or physical pleasure, well you don't need a man for that. Science has produced all the alternatives we need.
It's better to be happy and alone, than to be miserable in an unsatisfactory relationship.
2006-06-22 20:05:34 · answer #1 · answered by Chryss 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First: what business does your family doctor have telling you this? Let him stick to what he knows: taking care of you physically. Of course, perhaps he said this because he wants to have a brief affair with you.
Second: you're only 35! Come on. I know people older than that who are not married yet, and are still looking, and are happy.
Finally: the only thing wrong with "happily ever after" is that there's no such thing, if you're expecting to find true love, take a deep breath, sigh happily, then lay back on a couch to be fed grapes the rest of your life.
What happens instead is this: if you meet the person you think you might want to spend the rest of your life with, you spend one day with them. Then another, and another one day at a time. Some days are easy, some days are hard, some days are fabulous, and some days are awful. If you love each other enough you keep trying, and then one day you look back and realize you've been together for 20 years, and you've forgotten all the bad stuff and remember only the good stuff. THAT is happily ever after, and it is a feeling that only comes retroactively.
In the meantime, go out there, meet new people, and find new friends and lovers to spend your time with -- and I hope that one turns out to be the one you someday experience happily ever after with.
2006-06-23 03:05:55 · answer #2 · answered by daveowenville 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your doctor must be a bitter old man/women and anyway doctors don't have time for good relationships, what do they know.
I met partner when I was 34, we are now engaged to be married and yes I plan on happily ever after.
I think that once you reach an age like that you know what you do and don't like more than when you were younger, you have experienced more in life, you know where you are going in life.
All you need now is to find someone who wants to share the same things with you.
What kind of "family doctor" gives out advice against being a "family"
2006-06-23 03:02:18 · answer #3 · answered by having_a_blonde_day_lol 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well then your doctor gave you some wrong advice. There is such a thing as happily ever after. I tend to agree and believe you. Keep looking and searching and taking your time. I feel that there is a right person out there for your some where to be with and to spend the rest of your life with. I feel that for anyone. I met my husband at 29 and now I am 37 and we are living happily ever after going on 8 years now and i would not change it for anything. He is the best thing that ever happened to me other then God in my life and my kids. I thank God for my wonderful husband and kids everyday and I feel that i have a blessed and happy life and I would not trade it for anything! Keep your chin and spirits up and dont let people or things get you down and keep on going!
2006-06-23 06:54:35 · answer #4 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first you call your doctor and tell him I said he doesn't know what he is talking about..May be HE can't find someone to be happy forever with but that is not so...I am 56 my husband is the same age .We have been married almost 7 years and we are together forever..Your doctor needs to quit dispensing advice cuz he is wron.....If you find love at anyage and it is the real thing then you can be happy at any age , and have it last forever
2006-06-23 03:01:59 · answer #5 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you need to focus on being where you are in the now. do u really need someone else in your life to make you happy. the answer is there is a yes to happily ever after but it may not be with someone. learn to be happy with you and the other may follow if not you are already happy.
btw easier said than done. hang in there
2006-06-23 03:18:45 · answer #6 · answered by M T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have serious self esteem issues. I've never heard of anyone asking their doctor for dating advice. Work on yourself first, then the right one will come along. Also, every man you date is NOT the one who hurt you, so be sure not to treat them as guilty until proven innocent!
2006-06-23 03:00:53 · answer #7 · answered by vivagirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's a bunch of bullpoop!!! I met the love of my life when I was 48 years old and I wasn't actually looking. He's the most wonderful man. I prayed that God would send me someone who would appreciate all the love I could give him...and He did! Don't give up! God Bless.
2006-06-23 02:58:35 · answer #8 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're family doctor is nuts!! theres a happily ever after for everyone! and it comes at a different time for everyone!
2006-06-23 02:58:22 · answer #9 · answered by melovecheese1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that you are right and your doctor is not. Plus, at 35 you are quite young still.
2006-06-23 02:58:13 · answer #10 · answered by rykkardo8 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋