I have a male relative that I suspect might be gay. He was in a serious realtionship but his wife walked out on him. Since then he had another girl chase him down and is in a relationship with her but only because of her persistance.
For as long as I can remember, he has had many extremely attractive women chase him but there is no sincere interest in them on his part.
I suspect that he is but I feel that he thinks that we will not accept him. I want to let him know that we will support him, How do I approach him and find out if he is gay without offending him?
2006-06-22 19:25:14 · 6 answers · asked by olivia6799 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
The only way you can do this is to have a general conversation about stuff in the news or religion, and lead on to the subject of homosexuality (e.g. gay marriage, or religious treatment of homosexuals). The conversation needs to be long winded i.e. don't start the conversation on homosexuality or it will seem obvious. Just try to convey acceptance of homosexuals - don't say something along the lines of "if someone in the family was gay" or it will seem obvious. You could always talk about a gay work colleague if you have one. All this has to be done discretely and not done in a way which will trigger alarms in your relative.
2006-06-22 20:33:10 · answer #1 · answered by nemesis 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell 'em that you love 'em no matter what, and then pop the question. Let 'em know that if there's anything he wants to share, you'd be more than happy to lend a nonjudgmental ear. If he's straight, he probably laugh, if he's not, he'll likely be glad you approached him.
2006-06-22 19:31:31 · answer #2 · answered by Peter Pan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHAT MAKES YOU THINK HE IS GAY? HE IS RUNNING THE LIFE WITH THE GOOD LOOKING BABES, NOT BEING SERIOUS WITH ONE OF THEM, JUST BEING THE PLAYER AND THAT MAKES YOU THINK HE IS GAY. HAVE YOU EVER SEEN HIM WITH A GUY? HAS HE BEEN ON GAY SITES ON THE INTERNET? DOES HE GO TO GAY BARS? SOUNDS LIKE THE ONLY ONE WITH A PROBLEM IS YOU 'CAUSE HE SURELY ISN'T GAY AT ALL.
2006-06-22 19:52:31 · answer #3 · answered by BOOMBOOMBILLY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To not be gay and go to Heaven or to be gay and make the worst turn I ever made and people hating me? Hmmmmmm I'll choose not to be gay and go to Heaven.
2006-06-23 08:27:21 · answer #4 · answered by Da Great 1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Eeek big question!
Ask him, if your close enough to him to meddle then you should be close enough to ask the questions.
Can't really go that badly.
Why don't you talk about a Yahoo question and then ask if he would ever be with a guy.
2006-06-22 19:33:15 · answer #5 · answered by trash_pony 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
on his own time....
2006-06-23 01:32:10 · answer #6 · answered by sstooc2001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋