i love him, but we met very young but get along great overall..its going to be 6 years but he hasnt given me a ring, im leaving for 9 months to study abroad and i dont know if i should stay with him or leave him...i think by 6 years i should already have a promise ring..but i dont even have that.
2006-06-22 19:21:48 · 16 answers · asked by Selina 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I have talked to him about marriage.. and he says that yes he sees that in the future if everything goes well..yet for some reason him saying this doesnt feel like enough. I want some action to be taken, i want him to say it and hug me or show me that he means it..i just think he is too comftorable and in 2 months when im gone and come back til next year hopefully he will know by then..ahh
2006-06-22 19:34:44 · update #1
yeah, you should move on... if it was going anywhere you would have some kind of ring by now. Good luck.
2006-06-22 19:24:41 · answer #1 · answered by heidielizabeth69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to him about how you feel. Since you did get together young and you are still young maybe he doesn't think you are both ready to get married. Sometimes guys think way different than girls do and/or clueless about a lot of things - especially marriage and engagement.
You going abroad for 9mo is a good thing. This could be a real turning point in your relationship. Talk to him and let him know how you feel and that you feel like after 6yrs you should at least be engaged by now. Let him know you are going away and ask him what he thinks you both should do. Just have an open discussion about your relationship, engagement, and marriage - see where you both stand. The most important thing is that you both communicate and be honest about how you feel.
2006-06-22 19:27:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are both young, there are plenty of experiences in your life that will come your way. DO NOT give up on your dreams!!! Go study abroad and if you two truly love each other you will reunite. If it is not meant to be then be happy for the experience and learn from it. You should not feel obligated to stay with him if it may not be meant to be and possibly regret it later. Only you know truly in the back of your head what you should do. Don't let your heart control what you should / should not do unless you know in your head that it is right/wrong. 6 years is a long time but again you two are young. Enjoy new experiences and live your young life. Only you can decide what is right. Best of luck!
2006-06-22 19:40:14 · answer #3 · answered by DanielleC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him this. If he has no idea of how you feel than its unfair to worry yourself. A promise ring isn't much to ask for after that many years together.
Do you love him?
A promise ring isn't something that should make or break a relationship. Love is love. A ring means nothing if you both feel love for one another
Does he buy you jewelry on a regular basis?
2006-06-22 19:31:31 · answer #4 · answered by kellbell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your relationship is going to be a lifetime, it will last the study abroad. You will really wonder what you missed out on someday if you don't explore who you are and what other men are like. There is still so much to explore, so much to see, so much of yourself to discover. Do you know who you are without him around? Sounds like he is comfortable with you and is happy with things the way they are. If you force him, he would probably by you a ring. But that may not be the thing you need to do.
2006-06-22 19:26:27 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So have you ever talked marriage with him?? Is that what you really want??? Tell him you'll give him till you get back to make a decision. If no ring/promise/engagement, you're leaving and mean it. Six yrs. is a long time.
2006-06-22 19:25:26 · answer #6 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
6 years is a long period. Don't you think it will be wasted? Most importantly, you still love him right? I think you should carry on, unless you met another guy along the way, then....... =P
2006-06-22 19:25:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to do what your heart tells you, If you love him enough to wait them make a desition on how long you will wait. And 23 isn't very old, you don't have to settle down just yet
2006-06-22 19:26:43 · answer #8 · answered by Calia'a Mommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he feel shy to express his feeling of love to you.You should give him a bit of time or why don't you try asking him where is the ring for yourself.No harm.
2006-06-22 19:26:15 · answer #9 · answered by Heroboy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm..I think you shud ask him about it.
You know maybe he has a heart for someone else.
Im worried about it dear.
But the best thing will be to ask him.
2006-06-22 19:25:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋