The only thing we did was laugh about old times but for some reason I feel I was wrong and that I have something to hide from him.Incidently my mother-in-law lives right across the street so do you think I should go ahead and tell him I had a male visitor?
2006-06-22 18:49:14 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
WTF is worng with this picture? nothing ! An old friend came by, we had coffee , we talked.
Its not like I took him into my room and made mad passionate love to him.. come on now.. arent I allowed to have friends too?
If the mother in law asks about him tell her what have you got to feel guilty about? What have you got to hide?
Tell your man about it .. An old friend came by we had coffee.. he is a pretty cool guy I would like for all of us to get together for coffee another day.
You have done nothing wrong... dont feel bad about it.
2006-06-29 12:11:45 · answer #1 · answered by timberleigh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you didn't do anything inappropriate, and you didn't intend to do anything inappropriate, then there's nothing wrong with what you've done.
But. (uh oh, here it comes...)
Why didn't you tell him about it up front? Why did you feel the need to hide it from your husband? If you *truly* had no intention of doing anything inappropriate, you wouldn't feel uncomfortable or guilty, and you would have told him "hey, I ran into an old classmate; he's coming over tonight after you go to work. I know you probably don't care, but I didn't want you to find out afterwards and think something was going on. In fact, if you can go to work later than usual, I'd love you to meet him -- or if this makes you nervous, let me know and I'll reschedule for a time when you can be home."
That is what people with appropriate intentions do. And you didn't do it. Ask yourself why, and you'll have the answer to whether this was an improper thing to do or not.
2006-06-22 20:30:13 · answer #2 · answered by daveowenville 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to avoid being alone with any male, there s a very true saying : "whenever there s a male and a female alone the third one is the devil",,,is not loyal, and if u feel guilty so has to be a reason maybe deep in ur mind but something is wrong there,dont do it again.friendship between males and females is a fake concept, if we are married women there s no need for male friends.u can have many nice females friends and enjoy the time in different ways,forget about men, if u love and respect ur husband.
2006-06-22 18:59:50 · answer #3 · answered by rivers_of_life 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No fault no fowl...honesty is the best policy. Tell your husband an old friend stopped by and you had a few laughs. If he gets angry deal with it...you are innocent and have nothing to hide. If you hide this and it comes up, which is really a possibility, you will look guilty as sin. Laying it all on the table now will appear much more innocent...which of course it is.
2006-06-22 19:17:56 · answer #4 · answered by jodie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aot of people seem to have alot to say on this, and not all warranted in my opinion.
Like you say, it was spur of the moment. You did not do anything sexual. It is possible for people of the opposite sex to be friends without anything sexual happening at all. Why do people have to always suspect the worst.
Be honest and open with your husband about what happened, if he trusts you then all will be fine, if he doesnt then that is his issue to deal with. This all comes back to trust, married people need to be able to trust each other unconditionally for the marriage to work, that would also include your husband being able to have female friends, and trust that nothing happened. Not hiding is showing that it was just friends, hiding it will make it look like there was more to it. You know how people like to always believe the worst of us!
2006-06-22 19:07:15 · answer #5 · answered by having_a_blonde_day_lol 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This old friend just showed up at your house..or more like you invited him over?...Yes, you should tell your husband you had him over...and not because your in-laws live across the street from you...you should tell him, because it's the right thing to do...would you like him having an "old friend" from school over and you not know about it? rule of thumb...if you don't want it done to you..don't do it to him!
2006-06-22 20:16:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-15 03:50:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The guy stopped by hoping to get laid and you went along with it maybe for the same if not other reasons for your own turn on or excitement. Now you're going to tell your husband and hope he falls for your line of bull while you try to convince yourself your telling the truth also. Deep down MOST guys since dishonesty and in the future when an opportunity arises for him to get laid he'll probably go for it with that incident in the back of his mind.
2006-06-22 20:17:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You weren't wrong for having an old school friend drop by - as long as nothing happened. Yes, you should tell your hubby regardless of where your mother in law lives - you should be honest and open with him about everything.
2006-06-22 19:02:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him when the time is right and tell him how you felt. Explain it was a spur of the moment thing; you did not invite him. He's a nice guy and you want your hubby to meet him soon. Be very matter of fact.
2006-06-22 18:55:31 · answer #10 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋