i have to addmit that I LOVE SEX before my husband and i got married we did it anywhere anytime but we only really saw each other 3 maby 4 times a week once we got married it feels like i sorta have to beg for sex as soon as he hits the pillow he's asleep during the day i touch him caress him kiss him and give him little hints that i wanna get naughty but he just doesnt respond ive sat him down numerous amount of times and told him how i felt and how i want him to be more sexual BUT he does nothing to change his just NEVER horny and his only 23 yrs old whats wrong im not bad looking, his crazy inlove with me he does so much for me so i know for sure his not cheating he just wont be able to fit it in lol im good in bed and im willing to try anything once so what could the problem be???
2006-06-22 18:47:32 · 8 answers · asked by bellitarose 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It sounds like something is bothering him. Maybe he just can't focus, maybe he's got a lot on his mind, or maybe its more serious and you two might need to see a therapist.
2006-06-22 18:59:10 · answer #1 · answered by WTF 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This may be a difficult one to hear because in part the issue, IMO, is not simply him and what he is doing, but is instead the tug of war the two of you are creating with sex as the rope. In all likelihood, the real issue that needs attention has nothing to do with sex, your attractiveness, or his "willingness" to have sex. The possibilities are endless, but there could well be some other matter that your husband is expressing his feeling about through an unwillingness to have sex. This is very common and it happens in a lot of relationships. Applying pressure, and setting expectations that he obviously cannot fulfill is not going to work. Ever. It will, however, make things worse by adding another problem on top of the one you need to discover. The solution is to back off, and try to get below the surface of this problem. Talk, ask him to be honest, and brace yourself to hear something you might not like, with understanding instead of anger. Once he gets out what's going on, and you react with understanding, things will get better. The other possibility, also a simple reality, is that the amount of sex over the time of a relationship changes - it has to. In the early stage of a relationship you are not living together, so you live in an unrealistic fanatasy time. Then reality creeps in and the sex goes down. Again, very common. What's important is you don't view the amount of sex as a measure of quality of your relationship and use that as a reason to apply pressure that will only backfire. Good luck.
2006-06-23 02:13:21 · answer #2 · answered by surf_monkey_astronaut 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my husband is the same way, but i always make him horny and make him want to have sex. So, i just wait for like a while until we haven't done it, so that he'll get really horny, and then i turn him down, and that makes him want it even more.
2006-06-23 02:12:11 · answer #3 · answered by lola 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need to start attracting him
without letting him know that u r trying to attract him
try be more sexier while he is arround
try wear some hot stuff like silk long shirt with out bra
he will definetly turn on
than it wil be ur time to escape coz hes not gona leave u
2006-06-23 02:07:46 · answer #4 · answered by snake 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SLOW DOWN, Men sometime like it when you act as if they are to much for you. Don't act so needy and then he will feel more like he needs to step his game up. He might be playing doubts in his head of your loyalty because of your persistance with sex. Let him come to you.
2006-06-23 02:23:11 · answer #5 · answered by Twila E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he is like u say,,"doing so much.." working so much so stressed and exhausted trying to please you in your needs, plzz dont be so selfish, try to think about his needs if u really love him, i think u are confused and u dont love him u just want sex, that s not love, love is devotion and many times for love we give up our own needs and desires, he needs a rest, eating well sleeping well, dont put pressure on him asking all the time for sex and things, try to be a real woman and if u really love him be patient and support him,
2006-06-23 02:03:47 · answer #6 · answered by rivers_of_life 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband was the same way at that age. and I was the one taking the cold showers. Then he started taking some natural vitamins then I could not take him away from me. Then I was the one that would avoid him.
2006-06-23 02:21:22 · answer #7 · answered by Angie29 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he may just be tired or doeesn't want to your best bet since you have talked is to think how important it is to you and make a decision.You could also do it yourself he might start getting the hint then.
2006-06-23 02:02:56 · answer #8 · answered by David 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋