I was her boss, and after she started dating him she started to call in all of the time, so I fired her. She just barges into my house with out knocking first, and she has my children calling her 'aunt'. They have only been together for a month or so but she has already moved into his mother's house with him. I don't like her, but I don't want to alienate my brother-in-law because it would upset my husband. He feels the same way I do, and so does his mother. She is bad news, but we are trying to respect his descision as an adult. Any advice would be helpful in how to approach the situation.
2006-06-22 18:47:07 · 4 answers · asked by mybebegwen 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Well since my home is my castle.....
She needs to be put in her place immediately. Thats YOUR home, and you have every right to set her straight. Doesnt matter how long they've been together. One does NOT enter anyone's home without knocking. That's simply rude and disrespectful.
As for calling her Aunt, I'd suggest (to her) they may do so when she becomes their aunt (via marriage)
As for moving in with mom....That's a matter for mom and her son! Now if you feel that's all too harsh. Then I'd have a family confab, and bring it all out, with all present. That way e/one gets to speak their peace openly, and it does not become a 'he said, she said' kinda thing.
Take charge of your home, and I wish you the very best!
2006-06-22 19:14:40 · answer #1 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey, Brother is a big boy. You make your bed, you lie in it. He will find out soon enough how she really is. Meantime, keep your mouth shut. You don't want to give him reason to continue the relationship out of spice, do you? Just talk to her about daily things; and ask her to pleas knock before entering your home. Keep the dead-bold on so she can't just Walk in anytime she plesrs. Above all, keep your brother-in-law in theloop cause love is blind. Good Luck.
2006-06-22 19:00:11 · answer #2 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's what I would do.
In company I would be nice and accepting of her that it will make her sick as she knows what you really think.
Her true colours will eventually show to all as she won't be able to stand seeing everyone happy especially you.
Behind closed doors, or when you are alone with her, be however you want to be.
It might not be the best solution, but learning to "play the game" can go a long way.
2006-06-22 18:55:34 · answer #3 · answered by having_a_blonde_day_lol 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to ask her not to enter your house unwelcomed.
As for her moving in with your mother-in-law you should let your mother-in-law take care of it.
2006-06-22 18:53:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋