Guy friends of mine who are married say that their wives don't like to have sex as much as they did before marriage. I've heard the same thing from married women. This is featured alot on TV too... Is it really true? If so, why could this be? Will it likely happen to me too if I get married?
2006-06-22 18:40:29 · 22 answers · asked by Teagan 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Its not marriage that stops it. Its what comes next...
After you have kids there won't be as much free time to have sex. Or as much private time to just be intimate, even. Make sure you have babysitters that you can trust. And spend time out with your significant other.
Seriously!
2006-06-22 18:44:15 · answer #1 · answered by TrickMeNicely 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Disclaimer Advisement: Bad or infrequent sex may be a sign of a deeper issue. Look for that toward the front of any sex problem.
I agree with many...partially. Look, you get married--you have sex. You age a little, and familiarity breeds contempt. He's thinking that you won't do "that." You're annoyed that he does "this" right before coming to bed (example: a good, loud, relaxing belch).
You get older--you have sex with a guy that now has man-breasts and erectile disfunction. You've got a flabby stomach and drooping breasts. The best means of birth control at my age is to leave the light on.
You see, if the marriage is going to last (I'm at 16 years. Dated 5. 3 kids. 2 jobs.)--you eventually learn to love each other PAST the sex. Please know that you CANNOT do this unless you go THROUGH the sex part.
Sex is absolutely fantastic! Sex is fun! Sex is fun. I'm tired, and I love you--let's sleep naked!
The exception that proves the rule? Sure:
Just remember this: if you don't bang him on a regular basis, you have to live with the idea that he could leave. Never heard a guy leave a marriage due to too much sex.
2006-06-22 19:42:20 · answer #2 · answered by muedprof 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that you are getting the right info.
When most people get married ,you have sex all the time. After awhile you are you get comfy with the other person but I think it has to do with the couple. You love that person and sometimes you need to spice up your marriage. Go do something together is something people forget about. If you make sure that you keep your marriage important it will be .Divorce is so easy today and a marriage is hard work.
It is up to the couple to make it work.If you both love and honor each other everyday you will have a long and happy sex fulfilled marriage
2006-06-22 18:57:02 · answer #3 · answered by sweetpea_peggy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not true. My husband and I have been married 9 months now and dated 2 years before that and I have to say sex is gets better with time. It's something you need to discuss with your partner before you get married. Pre-marital counseling is great for that. After children things can go down hill a bit because of the physical limitation before and after birth and after wards your wife might not be feeling so sexy after giving birth with all her extra baby weight. Some people tend to quarrel more when they're married and that Can put a damper on things. If you remember not to be very self-centered and think of your partner in all decision making this shouldn't be a problem.
2006-06-22 18:50:48 · answer #4 · answered by k.s. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that may be true in some cases but not all. I mean in life there are changes and you can either go with the flow are take actions to make the changes benefit you.Including how well your sex life is. Of course after ten years missionary may get a little old and that is why you have to switch it up a little, if not someone will stray and even if so who knows.
2006-06-22 18:59:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's not necessary true, it's just that after marriage you tend to get into routines an monotony, but is up to both of you to be aware of this and do something about it. No rule can be aplied to your marriage, you are the only ones who can make it a boring trip or a roller coaster ride, at least that's been my expirience in this two years of marriage.
2006-06-22 18:45:54 · answer #6 · answered by Danny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, its true, the fascination of each others bodies wears off after a while, and you get busy doing the family thing. the sex would stay if no kids were involved, but once youre married, kids happen next, and so on and so forth. so its just a naturally occuring thing really.
2006-06-22 19:14:16 · answer #7 · answered by crikeyme_mate 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends, in my case my, wife is not as she was while we were b/f and g/f. We used position sex too at that time but not now. It was only four and half years since we married. Her sex drive is not as much as she was before. I am arguing with her why that was so and she told me that she engaged in different ... so she promised me to revive it back soon. I hope she will back soon. Good luvk
2006-06-22 18:59:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you take a 5 year long vacation would you pack your bag and leave the next day to somewhere? anywhere?
I bet you would take it easy.
Same thing with marriage and sex.
No pressure no rush but it doesnt mean life is less exciting
2006-06-22 18:48:07 · answer #9 · answered by M K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree that after several years of being married the sex dropes off for different reasons. Childern,work,bills, etc..... But you can help curb this by keeping it interesting in the bed room.
2006-06-22 19:29:26 · answer #10 · answered by angels 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋