I am a 37 year old male who was born with Spinal Bifida. I've had my right leg amputated at 10 yrs. of age , then My left leg was broken beyond repair at 15. I am resigned to a chair for life. My mother told me to make up for what I lost in the physycal, with personality. I have done this and every since, my personality attacts people. Men and Women alike . NOW - I am married , My first marrige. I am married to a woman who has been hurt emotionally in 2 failed marriges and has trust issues. She knows that I am true to her but she feels that she is not enough for me due to the fact that I like the attention that I get from women. My question is this- Is it wrong for me to remain the way that I have always been, ( highly personable ). Or, should my wife understand that she's been hurt and should trust in the fact that I DO love her and am true to her and that MAYBE her past effects the way she sees things now and should be more trusting of ME? or is IT ME?
2006-06-22 18:36:12 · 3 answers · asked by wingnutter69 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am sure your wife loves you very much. If she has been hurt in the past it may take time for her to heal. Be patient with her and it will be ok. If you choose to be flirtacious then do it without touching and make sure you let her know that you love her. Sometimes when you flirt with others it can lead to trouble because some ppl misinterrpert also. Then it becomes more like disrespect then cheating. She may trust you and maybe she is just scared of being hurt again. Just Love her and understand her and make her feel special too. She must love you or she would not have married you. Trust sometimes has to be earned too(both ways) Good Luck!
2006-06-22 21:16:44 · answer #1 · answered by Shortydeb 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Its both! You are most likely what they call a natural flirt you cant help but want to be liked by the people around you which is probably how you got your wife. However you may want to try toning it done a little bit for your wifes sake. She most likely needs to feel secure and so i recomend that while you are flatering everyone else make her feel like she is the center of attention once in while and she will learn to get use to it.
2006-06-22 19:27:37 · answer #2 · answered by twistedlifesmysteries 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell you wife about this new thing out there called therapy.
2006-06-22 19:20:40 · answer #3 · answered by loveorlust06 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋