my best friend just asked me for advice and I don't know what to tell her....she's getting married next march and her and her fiance' just found out that his wages are about to be garnished b/c of something that happened back in 2000. She is very upset and questioning whether or not she wants to marry him b/c she says she doesn't want to suffer. Keep in mind that this guy had been working for years to get himself out of debt on minimum wage. He thought he was done and then all of a sudden he gets this notice in the mail. Also they have been together for about 7 years. What should I tell her?
2006-06-22 18:35:36 · 10 answers · asked by proudmommy1 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Her boyfriend needs to see a lawyer. If he can't find one, go to a social worker who can find someone pro-bono (free). He should contest the garnishment because sometimes they are not necessary or legal. If she loves him, she will work with him through this problem. Sounds like a nice guy.
2006-06-22 19:08:12 · answer #1 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through that about 4 years ago, but I was the one that owed the debt. This was a debt from 1996 (before we married) and he did not know about it. The court put a lien on our bank account and took the money. The timing was horrible (we had just sent in all our bills). My hubby (upset) stuck by me and just helped me pay off the debt. I think that she should stick by him, and find out if he gets married and has more expenses, will they garnish less money from him?
2006-06-22 18:49:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her she doesn't deserve a hard-working man who's made financial stability a priority. If she says she doesn't want to "suffer" because his wages are getting garnished, then she's a greedy girl and you should tell her to give the ring back and let that guy go find a NICE girl who's interested in more than money!
2006-06-22 18:39:07 · answer #3 · answered by dcgirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why should she even question her decision now if she loves him ? are money more important than love?She should be there for him and help him pay his debts.A commitment should mean being there for the person you love in both their good and bad times.If she really loves him, this shouldn't even be an issue...the thought of losing him should hurt more than the one of suffering over raising money to pay a debt.
2006-06-22 18:41:48 · answer #4 · answered by anilia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everybody has difficult times, and if all she cares about is the money then that means she doesn't really love him. Obviously the guy is trying to fix his mistakes, so she should applaud him for that. If she is questioning it then maybe it isn't right. Good luck.
2006-06-22 18:38:49 · answer #5 · answered by heidielizabeth69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Umm my appropriate acquaintances particular, yet even although i like the girls I loaf around with, I wouldn't totally have faith them. It sounds terrible yet i comprehend for a fact that they each and every so often gossip approximately one yet another. the two way is say I unquestionably have some acquaintances who're the two honest climate acquaintances and a few who're like sisters to me.
2016-12-08 11:47:38 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her she is extremely shallow. Tell her if money is an issue......she really wasn't truly in love. What a waste of 7 years.
2006-06-22 18:38:51 · answer #7 · answered by elbowsmash5 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she refuses to marry him because of money issues...then she shouldnt be marrying him all all. If you dont love some one when u marry them that marriage will be doomed to fail
2006-06-22 18:39:04 · answer #8 · answered by DeeK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well seven yrs is alot of yrs to throw away besides if she loves him then wether hes rich or poor should not matter. and if it really bugs her about his debt why don't she help him out
2006-06-22 18:41:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask her if she loves him because if she does nothing else matters .......
2006-06-22 18:39:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋