2006-06-22 17:56:54 · 21 answers · asked by dare_me 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Being a parent myself, it will be hard answering your question,but I will try. Did your parents give you reasons why they dislike your boyfriend? If not then I suggest you sit down and talk to them,hear them out,take notes if you have to, then really think about what they have told you. Are some of their concerns or worries valid? Are there age issues or racial issues involved? Do they feel he is not good enough for you? Once you have talked to your parents,go over everything they have said.Some times when you love someone you have a tendency to overlook certain things,your brain is telling you one thing and your hearts telling you another,I have always taught my kids to do what they feel is right,if things don't work out,then you look at it as a lesson in life.We are all human and we all make mistakes and the only way you are going to grow as a person is to learn to trust yourself and to learn from your mistakes. I hope I have helped you,you didn't give to much info like your age how long you guys have been together etc...I wish you the best
2006-06-22 18:16:14 · answer #1 · answered by googey 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't want to sound harsh or crude, but the truth is, you can't help who you fall in love with, and he'll be there for the rest of your life; Your parents won't.
If they don't like him, you'll just have to explain that although you love them and respect them very much, your fiance is number one in your life now. Ask them to try to love him through you, and support you no matter what. Chances are, when they see that you're serious about wanting to marry him, they'll get used to the idea. When they get used to the idea, they'll put their wall down a little, and before you know it, they will like him. After a while, even love him like a son.
Don't lose hope, and whatever you do, if you're truly serious about wanting to spend the rest of your life with this person, don't let your parents dictate your decision. The decision is yours, and yours alone. They aren't marrying him, you are.
2006-06-23 01:37:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to rocker. Every boyfriend I ever had my parents/family hated or disliked and it never worked out. They cheated got abusive or we would fight all the time. I am now married (happily) for 13 years and my family and parents love him sometime I think more then me LOL. It is my experience that your family know more then you, and there is a reason they don't like him.
2006-06-23 01:08:51 · answer #3 · answered by Jo Jo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When your married , just visit your parents alone .He's marring you not the family .And you have decided he's the one for you . So , blessing to you and just share your self with parents and him , separately. Keep in touch with your parents , they will always love you ! But stand by his side as a wife . Now if they visit your home , all should respect it's your & his home .If they can't be pleasant in his & your home ,just say " Dad , Mom , I'll just come over to the house .I love you all and I want to keep in touch " Give them a hug and kiss and say " I know you love me and this has to work out because we're family always ".
2006-06-23 01:08:41 · answer #4 · answered by Fairy Tale 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before I give you advice on this it is very important on your age. I f you are over 18 then you should do what makes you happy not your parents..they do not have to live with this person for the rest of thier life. I can tell you though, that I am 29 years old, and almost every time my mother has told me something I did not want to hear, she has been right. Please take this into consideration.
2006-06-23 01:25:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mmm well maybe you to need to sit down and talk with your parents or someone on the outside maybe your heart is blind to somethings others see... Just take the time out to see if maybe your missing something that could and would change your life for the bad, your grown you can make your own choice, but my question to you is.. Have your parents never lead you wrong???
2006-06-23 01:03:09 · answer #6 · answered by M M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
speaking from experience: if your parents hate this guy there is probably a reason. they are older and more experienced than you. show your maturity by sitting down with them and asking them what it is about him they dont like. better if he isnt there too cause them it will just be a big mess. they might start you thinking about things from a different point of view. and if you do ask, be prepared to listen to what they have to say. do your friends like this guy? sometimes they can be a really good gage to use as well. if your folks dont like him and your friends dont like him... run!
2006-06-23 01:04:50 · answer #7 · answered by cincin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is only once and true love also is only once. u are the only one who is going to live ur life. u are the one who is going to go through all the happiness, sadness, pain, success..etc
Your parents can only be with u and guide u. You are the only one that lives ur life.
Mahatma Gandhi told that the power of love is thousand times more effective than the one derived from fear of punishment.
Good Luck
2006-06-23 01:03:04 · answer #8 · answered by nisha_happy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents does not have to live with him , You do! If you love him get married regardless of what your parents think!
2006-06-23 01:06:01 · answer #9 · answered by Retarded Dave 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your parents dont like him, there may be a good reason to take a second look and rethink marriage.Parents arent usually wrong about not liking a mate.Just think about it.
2006-06-23 01:01:32 · answer #10 · answered by missyandgordon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋