My man has a old friend that just emailed him due to her brothers death and now he goes to work and emails her. I do not have a problem with it but he says he can feel the tension and he feels uncomfortable doing it at home. I have read the emails and started out nice now she wants him to tell her about his life. I see no problem with people having friends of the oppistie sex but why would he go to work and do his emailing? Should I stop this now or just wait and see what she has to ask next? Confussed!
2006-06-22 17:27:51 · 17 answers · asked by falconjet66 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I am not a jealous person but the thing is the man in my life goes to work and emails this woman. I trust him and he has never done anything to break that trust I just feel that he maybe feeling guilty for emailing her back every other day. And also I find that she is emailing him from her work also not from her home. I told him no problem but going to email her you have a computer at home don't need to go to work and do it and he said he feels tension when he does email her and I am around. But not jealous just seems strange it started over her brother passing and has lead to emailing him quite often wanting to know of his job, life, child. And her words are not greatly worded sounds like she is looking for something other than her husband and he has told her of me but she writes ask questions and tells him to write on she wants to know all about him. I know he wouldn't like it if it was me but I to have friends that are male but do not email them exspecially from another comuter.
2006-06-22 17:44:11 · update #1
your husband needs to stop this right now. Even if it is just "innocent" right now, there is always the temptation, and that is what we want to eliminate. How many affaires start with just that little temptation? I am not telling you not to trust him, we're just not going to make trusting an issue by getting rid of the temptation. I had to tell my hubby to tell an ex girlfriend to stop writing to him, too. I trust my hubby, it is HER that I didn't trust. Besides, I want to be the only woman in my hubby's life.
2006-06-22 17:32:00 · answer #1 · answered by The Nag 5 · 21⤊ 2⤋
He tells you he's noticing tension at home and you are reading these emails with him knowing and with his permission without pressure or attitude from you? I don't know.
She's an old friend and is asking about his life. This is his opportunity to tell her that he's hooked up and in love with a fantastic woman (meaning you of course) and that he likes his life. End of story.
The fact he feels there's "tension" tells me you may've left perhaps one or two things out of your post? Are you the jealous type?
2006-06-23 00:30:43 · answer #2 · answered by Persephone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know..that one thing can lead to another. One day..he might delete the email that says..the two of them should do lunch or have coffee the next time one or the other is in town. You should know that if he really wants to persue this relationship with her..he will. But.. you can always tell him that THIS is as far as it goes. Tell him to tell her.. that he appreciates her telling him about the death etc.. but he's married and does not want to continue having a relationship with her. And YOU make sure..that it sounds like its coming from him..and not like his wife is sitting right there making him write it. Its a sad thing to have to do, but if you dont stop it.. it wont stop.
2006-06-23 00:34:04 · answer #3 · answered by spurdom28 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to be frank is this e-mailing someone ain't the same way in having sex ppl that does that over the net are a bit up minded so.
just take it easy if its a long distance things words can never make another women pregnant but if its someone in the near region just let him do is thing let the dice roll trust me the day that he cheats you'll have the chance of catching him with his pants down. one small advice dont show him that your watching him cause the first excuse he is going to use to leave you will be that you dont give him space to breathe.so give him rope when he wants it one day he will hang him self.
2006-06-23 00:37:35 · answer #4 · answered by HITCH 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understood you to say you were his wife, not his almighty God ruler. You couldn't find a better way to drive him away from you than to stick your nose into every little aspect of his life. Just do everything that you can think of to show him that you love him deeply and trust him. Be kind to him and show him and tell him that you trust him. And you will never have to worry about him going to another woman. Oh and don't forget to show him, and tell him that he can trust you. Lots and lots of LOVE and lots and lots of TRUST will keep any relationship togeather.
2006-06-23 00:45:32 · answer #5 · answered by meimmoody 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it obviously bothers you and he should respect that. If the shoe was on the other foot most men wouldnt stand for it. I think as long as hes not hiding anything its fine but once he starts acting suspicious let your instincts be your guide!!
2006-06-23 00:36:35 · answer #6 · answered by jlp 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's good that you're "in the know" about the situation. I guess it depends on how comfortable you are with the situation. If they would meet for lunch/dinner or something, would you be comfortable joining them? That's a big factor.
2006-06-23 00:31:09 · answer #7 · answered by Gabby_Gabby_Purrsalot 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit down with him and bring the issue up with him... doing it behind his back will only cause you two problems down the line. You have to trust him... If you can't do that.. then why are you with him?
2006-06-23 00:32:37 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its all on how you TRUST your man. has he ever done anything in the past that would make you distrust him? if not just go with the flow....its probably nothing. Is she living in the same state?
2006-06-23 00:31:05 · answer #9 · answered by Love 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that he's certainly not earning your trust if he has to do this and saying that he sense the tensions is baloney. He's flirting with her. tell him to knock it off.
2006-06-23 00:30:53 · answer #10 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋