Someone very close to me seems to be drinking everyday. There have been alot of deaths in our family in the last year, and alot of stress. I have lived with an alcoholic father and brother-in-law, but I seem to have rose coloured glasses on when it comes to this person. Hew denies that is drinking all the time, but yet everyday, there is beer in the fridge...I know he is in denial but I do not know how to help him....
2006-06-22 17:04:22 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
There are different forms of alcoholism.....you don't have to drink everyday to be considered an alcoholic. How it affects you....if you can't stop at having just one or two drinks for example, or if you have blackouts and can't remember what you did the day after is another form of alcoholism. Needing to drink every day is definitely a form of alcoholism. It definitely sounds like your friend is in denial. You could mention to him that you feel that his health is in jeporady, but only he can want to help himself. It takes alot of courage and determine to overcome this disease. I know that for a fact. My father died at the age of 36 from alcoholism and my family tried for years and we had him in many programs, but he just could not overcome the desire or will power to stop. I am 50 years old and I know for a fact that I could if I allowed myself to get in trouble with alcohol. If I have more than 3 drinks at a time, I have blackouts and become deathly ill.... that is a form of alcoholism. Try to encourage your friend to get help and "be there for him", but make him understand that he has to want to STOP!
2006-06-22 18:40:04 · answer #1 · answered by Bluewillow 2 · 12⤊ 1⤋
Possesion of beer in the fridge doesnt mean he is drinking it. I have at this moment in my home a half gallon of vodka ... a case of beer .... Jack daniels and alot more. But i only drink a couple of beers a week and maybe a shot or 2 of the others on weekends
2006-06-22 17:11:58 · answer #2 · answered by Celestial Dragon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, here is one key determining factor- does he want to drink, or does he have to drink? If he has to drink, then he most certainly is addicted, and needs help. If he wants to drink, but does not have to, he may just be trying to get a handle on things, and maybe needs a bit of support to pull through this. Be alert and pick up on cues. Is his life revolving around drinking, does he go out of his way to make sure he has it? Then he should seek help. Also, you cannot make him, I learned that the hard way. You can present him different options, but he has to be the one to do it. Good Luck.
2006-06-22 17:09:53 · answer #3 · answered by fixer of all aka mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is, probably started with depression of the deaths in the family, you can only choose NOT to enable him, buy or drink him, he must admit he has a problem. However, if others are concerned, an intervention may help. He is trying to numb his grief with alcohol.
2006-06-22 17:09:04 · answer #4 · answered by DollyLama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, that's really really bad. Be a bit sneaky maybe and at midnight try and get most of the beer out of the fridge. And if that doesnt work, maybe tell him something like "Think about the other people in our family that drank alcholic stuff and died." And stuff like that. I hope it helps...
2006-06-22 17:09:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you leave him hints about getting to a meeting of AA? I am an alcoholic, and it took years for me to hit my bottom. Only he can admit freely he is sick. That's where the healing begins. AA has a 800 number in the phone book, see how you can get him involved. It saved my life, really. Good luck, it must be awful to watch someone kill themselves like that. I'll be praying for him, hon.
2006-06-22 17:09:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
considering your experience with alcoholics, if that is your feeling then it's probably true. having had alcoholics in my family, it has been my experience that you can't help someone unless they realize they have a problem and want to be helped.
2006-06-23 03:49:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your instincts tell you that this person has a drinking problem, then they probably do. You cannot help him, he has to admit it to himself first.
2006-06-22 17:08:13 · answer #8 · answered by Annette R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋