I love him so much, I am stuck. He is moving on with no problem and that is the last thing I want. We have joint custody of our girls. One week after recieving my papers I tried to commit suicude. That was also before rehab. I know he was planning this and has had more time to adjust and he basically has washed his hand of this. Actually he washed his hands right at the beginning. I never have gotten an opportunity to have a discussion with him with, whys, whens, and hows. We have always been with God, well of course I wasnt when I was behaving like a fool, but I have grown so much spiritually, (that's what keeps me going at the times when I feel I'm completely losing it again. I have faith, and really belief it was meant for me to go through with and to be for my good. He has a lot of bitterness towards me and says we will never be together again. In my heart I know we could so happy. I I'm not expecting miracles 2 day. Is my heart crazy. He is a great man. I am lost. HELP??????
2006-06-22 16:59:09 · 5 answers · asked by DG 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think you are doing the right thing by having God by your side and by having the faith that you need. Maybe go more to church, read more and this may streghthen you.
I have to say, if he has made up his mind... he may have, or maybe he is just tired and hurt too. Seeing you destroy yourself and that can really hurt one. Besides maybe he doesnt want to make it easy for you to come back and do the same thing. It is scary to see your partner destroy themself and see them on drugs and out of control.... have you thought of that.
I am sure you can be happy, but you both have to be happy, like I said in your other question... there is a reason why things happen, and try to be possitive about it. It isnt easy.... but try. This will help you with your addiction as well to not relaps.
Broken hearts are hard to fix. But alls I can say is time will heal and things will get better, think about it, they already have. You are not on drugs any longer, I am sure your daughters are thrilled to see you not abusing your body. And think... You get to have parcial custody of your daughters, you have God in your life....it could be worse.
Good luck and let us know what you think and how you are doing ok/???
2006-06-22 17:10:41 · answer #1 · answered by LM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just read part 1 and this part also. I have to tell you, that I was in a relationship for 27 years, and I left her also. I was unable to deal with the drug use and the irresponsibility that was all tied up into it. We went to a counselor on 3 seperate occassions, and it would help for a short time, but her behaviors would come back. Please keep in mind that I was no angel either, but I was able to conquer my addictions to drugs and alcohol, and I grew from that point in my life. She chose to remain stuck there. I understand where you both are coming from, and where you both are at. He will not return to you, and the real victims here are the children. I hope that you both have the descency to treat your children with all of the love that you can muster and then another 50% more just to make sure they understand that they did nothing to cause the problems.
2006-06-22 17:30:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, my heart breaks for you, but as I said, the man had enough. Over 30 years of this battle is enough to make anyone bitter. But you say you're spiritual and with God. You're heading on the right path, although I'm not religious. I suggest that you talk with your clergyman, priest, rabbi, etc. You need to prove to yourself that this whole mess is in the past. Perhaps, this clergy person can speak to ex on your behalf, but I think you need to focus on yourself. If you get suicidal again, call the suicide hot line. Your kids needs you more now than ever, believe it or not. Good luck, dear. I truly wish you the best.
2006-06-22 17:16:08 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
those poor kids they should have been taken out the house the only person was on yall minds was yall as far as him that was best just to bad he left the kids no you didnt always have GOD,GOD ALWAYS HAD YOU looking out for you when you didnt care about nothing except drugs on your mind he is a mercyful god even when we let go if you truly clean up your act GOD will hear your pray he knows when we are lying are telling the truth and he will answer what ever you ask if you truly believe
2006-06-22 17:16:38 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the heart wants what the heart cant get make him think you are okay and you are moving on to he probably still loves you but is finding it hard to trust you. you mentioned re-hab he has to know you are strong that you are sober for yourself!!!!! remember GOD has a plan for all of us. maybe ther is someone else out there for you, you just have not met yet stay strong
2006-06-22 22:12:57 · answer #5 · answered by corvairchick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋