dear friend, i have a bf who been dating 8 months... a lot of happy times... my bf knows my past abt me having sex with a ex of 5 yrs... when i ask his past he say he had no sex.... one day we end up having sex then that particular night a women called me and told me abt her affair with him for 9 yrs and they had it... i coudn't accept the fact... but i still loved then after that after being with for 2 months he had sex with her again and this sex between them for 9 yrs wasn't love.... she was 46 and he is 30... then i still wanted him and then after two months he just left me for her.. he had sex while the break up but i didn't so we broke up for 3 week n patch back..he said it was black magic now he is back with for 2 months n nothing of this is happening.. but yet i can't forget the past.. i try too but i just imagine them on bed...... wat can i do but we now love each so much n he wants to marry me i wanna take revenge but my heart don't permit it... i can't live without him eithe
2006-06-22 16:44:47 · 8 answers · asked by Sanjana G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think you should give up on this guy. Even though he's saying he isn't with this other woman anymore how can you be sure? Can you ever truely trust this guy again? If he has already cheated on you what's to say he won't do it agian? If you can't get past what he has done, the relationship will never progress or move forward.
2006-06-22 16:49:52 · answer #1 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the past will never leave im sorry to tell u ,im tellin u that from experience ,all u can do is try to deal with it maybe get some counseling for it or it will eventually ruin ur relationship because that is always on ur mind and the mind is a terrible thing sometimes ,if u truly forgive him for it then u have to let it go if u dont forgive him for it really,then u need to maybe let him go because if not it will ruin ur relationship sooner or later soon u will probly bring it up in arguments and it will just get worse and worse
2006-06-22 23:51:16 · answer #2 · answered by chell 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a grip and dump this loser. "It's black magic" and you believed that bs. He's a player, honey, and he's playing you. Want some heartache in your life/ Stay with him..
2006-06-22 23:48:38 · answer #3 · answered by sacredmud 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With all due respect, this man is a LIAR!
RUN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Find someone who will not cheat on you, lie to you, or assume you are stupid enough to believe everything he tells you.
There are patterns and this guy is on a destructive one.
He was with her for nine years, as soon as you two took 'a break', he went running back.
I assure you, he will again.
Move on sweetie :-)
2006-06-22 23:50:10 · answer #4 · answered by rvogelpohl2001 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get rid of this guy, he's playing you for a fool, and just using you for what he wants, sex, and you deserve a lot better than that
2006-06-22 23:47:43 · answer #5 · answered by shezdoni2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are his age your relationship is healthy what he was doing is being a pleaser to a woman who bribbed him into sex, so I think you should be confident you are much better than her she needs help
2006-06-22 23:49:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i understand this right i would not trust him i am sorry to be so judgememntal but it seems as if he lies to you and is back and fourth and i believe it will continue to be that way. good luck to you.
2006-06-22 23:50:34 · answer #7 · answered by lnay69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm well ull have to move on
2006-06-22 23:46:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋