My daughter recently left an emotionally troubled marriage. She has two young children and her ex is telling lies about her to anyone who will listen. He also stalks her, even going as far as hiding in the bushes outside her new place and watching her.
She left him because of his control issues and all they did was fight. She didn't want the children to grow up thinking that this was what a marriage was all about. Now he is saying she was cheating and is nothing but a **** and a whore.
There was never a question of infidelity but he won't accept her word and just keeps on and on making her life as miserable as possible.
What is her best recourse?
2006-06-22 16:24:13 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I was in a very simialar situation with my ex and sought advice from my divorce attorney. He recommended that the only way to legally stop him is to take out a warrant for slander and difimation of character at the local magistrate offfice. Her divorce attorney can advise her on the best way to proceed from there, if she can prove everything that he has been saying is a lie and she has plenty of emotional support for her through this, I didnt but i would do it all over again.
2006-06-22 16:39:26 · answer #1 · answered by R B 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Mainly to just live her life and prove to everyone she is not who he says she is. She needs to get an order of protection against him and stop the stalking now because this can lead to more danger and possibly even murdering her someday. She may also want to move to a place he cannot find her and never let him know where she is at. He sounds very sick and very dangerous and disturbed. She may also want to contact a local shelter as well. Was he abusive to her in the marriage and did he ever physically hurt her? Why is he not letting her live her life? Are they divorced yet? If not she needs to divorce this man ASAP and change her name and move to where he can never find her! I am really scared for her and for those poor children. She also may want to hire some people to watch her place and protect her at night when she is sleeping. She also may want to invest in an alarm system too! She also needs to call the police and tell them what is going on and see what they can do to help. Once she has the order of protection and he even comes near her then he can get in trouble for breaking that order of protection. Hope this helps some and i hope things get better for her soon!
2006-06-22 23:31:15 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing she needs to do is get a restraining order on him. There's no reason that he needs to be stalking her like that and trying to intimidate her. Every single time she sees him doing things like hiding in the bushes near her home, she needs to contact the police right away. And for the rumors and lies that he's saying... if it's a small town, than anyone who knows her, and anyone who's thought and opinion matters at all, will know that they ARE just lies. Frankly at this point anyone who would believe things like that are obviously very ignorant of the situation and you shouldn't let it get to you.
2006-06-22 23:30:31 · answer #3 · answered by BabyFirefly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The police dept the court and a restraining order is the first move.
Then a phone call to him from her attorney threatening him with a defamation of character suit.
If he is stalking that is a serious issue and she should report that to the police by phone as soon as she sees him near her yard.
This is a true shame for her children,, she should also arrange to pick up and delivery of children for visitation in front of the police headquarters on inside,, I live in a small town too and visitation in difficult situations occurs at the police station routinely.
2006-06-22 23:29:39 · answer #4 · answered by yeller 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe SHE is the one lying! I know she's your daughter, but that doesn't make her perfect. See how quickly she gets a new male "friend" and yet pretends they are not dating. Then, after an appropriate time, they are suddenly deciding that maybe they should date. This means they were dating all of the time!
This is exactly how it was with my ex. She and my (former) friend started spending a lot of time together. I accused them of having just an emotional (not physical) affair, and she divorced me. He "helped" her through the divorce, manipulating the whole thing. They claimed to not be dating, yet went on a weekend trip together - just to get her away from her stress. After the divorce was final, they officially started dating. It's 5 years later and they are still dating.
2006-06-22 23:32:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
im afraid you cant force anyone to shut up, if she wants to go that far, she can file slander charges, but that only helps if he cares enough about the law...she could tell him she will tell the town he has a small ****, even if its not true. it all depends on what she is willing to do...the last option is to do nothing...he will move on eventually and stop talking her down like that, eventually others will forget anything he said, and she can always defend herself to those that she cares what they think of her
2006-06-22 23:34:04 · answer #6 · answered by Rose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2014-08-11 04:51:25 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She can't stop it, but what she can do, is continue to be confident in herself and ignore all the rumors, etc., the best that she can do is continue to talk to God, and let him resolve this problem.
I'll Pray for her....
2006-06-23 13:52:04 · answer #8 · answered by theodorais 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she cant stop him, but she can remain dignified, and keep her opinion of him to herself, and more sooner than later, everyone will know that it is he, and not her who is the troublemaker, and the destruction of the marriage,
2006-06-22 23:32:51 · answer #9 · answered by Elly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bash the loser then he will shut up
2006-06-23 00:18:09 · answer #10 · answered by craig 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋