im 14 and my b.f is 19. yesterday he told me he waz into 'bdsm' when i asked him what bdsm stood 4 he refused to explain. can any1 plz tell me
2006-06-22 16:20:59 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
That's bondage and sodomy and masochism... it's pretty freaky stuff. If I were you, I'd be afraid. Some of this stuff involves being tied up, involves pain, blood, and really scary taboo stuff. I would strongly suggest breaking up with him (not because of the age) because unless you TOTALLY trust him... which I doubt is possible, you will end up freaked out, hurt, and possibly in a situation you DONT want to be in... being tied up means you can't stop him from doing what he wants to. I'm worried about you... this kind of stuff is for couples looking for an extra spark who have known each other for a really long time and have trust.
2006-06-22 16:25:00 · answer #1 · answered by jpanek_2003 3 · 9⤊ 9⤋
That guy should start to scare you dear. At 14 you have no business dating a 19 year old any way. At 17, OK, but 14 is WAY too young for a dude at 19 with bdsm on his mind. He can only get you hurt.
2006-06-22 16:29:54 · answer #2 · answered by Dusty 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is a form of sexual "pleasure"
Bondage (B)
Bondage & Discipline (B&D)
Domination & Submission (D&S, DS, D/S, D/s)
Sadism & Masochism (or Sadomasochism) (S&M, SM)
Many of the specific practices in BDSM are those which, if performed in neutral or nonsexual contexts, are widely considered unpleasant, undesirable, or abusive. For example, pain, physical restraint and servitude are traditionally inflicted on persons against their will and to their detriment. In BDSM, however, these activities are engaged in with the mutual consent of the participants, and typically for mutual enjoyment. (Any "consent" may or may not amount to legal consent and represent a defence to criminal liability for any injuries caused.)
This emphasis on informed consent and safety is also known as SSC (safe, sane and consensual), though others prefer the term
2006-06-22 16:24:49 · answer #3 · answered by ladymay 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Scummibear has the right answer.
I want to add that you really don't want to go there at your age. I'm not going to play the "you're too young" moral ethics trip on you but legally, you're playing with fire. Your boyfriend could be arrested for statutory rape, even if you both consent.
If he asks you to engage in BDSM, tell him no.
2006-06-22 16:27:21 · answer #4 · answered by oaksterdamhippiechick 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just from personal experience, I did stuff at fourteen and fifteen that I regret now. (I'm 29.) I know it might not make sense to you at this point, but spend some time to understand yourself before you get caught up in all of this. Trust me, you will be glad later on when you don't have so much "baggage" to carry around with you.
2006-06-22 16:41:52 · answer #5 · answered by paike 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Bondage Dominance Submission Sadism and Masochism
Mostly older people who have advanced sexual libidos get into this lifestyle. It is a lifestyle and not a game.
2006-06-22 16:24:51 · answer #6 · answered by professionalfemale01 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hey this is not related to this question. But, don't email anthony g from the fat question he's probably a pedophile, you'll see him on dateline soon. Just looking out for you!
2006-06-22 17:01:24 · answer #7 · answered by amya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bondage and sado-masochism. It means that in addition to being a child molester, he also wants to tie you up and hurt you, Run for your life and turn this guy in before he hurts someone.
2006-06-22 16:24:28 · answer #8 · answered by cathcoug 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Bondage Domination Sado-Masochism.
2006-06-22 16:23:40 · answer #9 · answered by csucdartgirl 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Bondage&Disicipline Domination&Submission Sadism&Masochism
Heres a link that will help:http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/BDSM
If your gonna do this be sure this is something you *want* to do, be safe, and have fun.
2006-06-22 16:23:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hope you like to be tied up and spanked
Drop this a$$hole and find a decent guy to date.
2006-06-22 16:23:45 · answer #11 · answered by Jennifer B 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋