what do i do when a godparent is mean to my daughter?

Question

she never talks to my daughter and when she does she is snotty

but the godmother is her dads cousin

i did call her and tell her and she said i was wrong-started a family fight

Answer 1

I don't know much that would give me some edge to how to answer this. All I can advise is to find a new godparent and not let this one hang around you or your child because there sounds like there may be some jealousy issues going on. (examples: your friend may or may not have children or a daughter of her on, or her relationship with her daughter is a rocky one.) whatever the issue maybe it is still no excuse for taking the high honor you gave her and acting in such a dishonorable way.

Answer 2

What does she say when you talk to her about it? Some people are not "kid" people - and some godparents accept because they think they will be a help to the child when they are older, even though they may not be comfortable with small children (or even know what they are getting into). Maybe this person has something else going on in her life (health issue, or something else) that has her acting erratically?

You need to decide how you will use this situation to teach your daughter something. If you just cut this person off without a word, you are teaching your child that that is an acceptable way to handle family relations. If she sees you trying to work out the situation (or you explain it to her) she will learn something else. Maybe if you are patient and wait and see what happens (though if I did that, I wouldn't be too far from my kid anytime she was near this woman) she will come around again - or at the very least your child learns to turn the other cheek.

I had my eldest's god parent pick a fight with me and there by leave our family. My child was not yet 3, so when I had a ceremony for my new baby a little later, we included a special segment to replace the missing god parent from my older childs life also. It is hard to have single friends be god parents - they don't seem to take it as seriously as family or even friends that are parents (though these can be too busy to be an influence on your child's life as they grow).

Remember that everything really does work out for the best. Peace!

Answer 3

I t hink a better question would be what the h*ll were you thinking when you made that person a godparent?

If you make bad choices that affect your life and the lives of your children you best be ready to take responsibility for it.

Godparents in most cases are a figurative thing and not a legal one.....if it's legal get it changed. If it's not legal it's just a figurative title then eff it.

Maybe you should take a better look at you and your daughter, perhaps you are lax and lazy in the discipline department and the godparent is just one of many people who can't stand your child because you haven't done YOUR job as a parent and socialized the child?

Answer 4

There's nothing godly about that kind of parent. U need to talk with this so called god parent, let her know it bothers u and it bothers Ur daughter, that she treats her this way.


She has to know it bothers the both of u it sounds like she just doesn't care. So u should talk to her and tell her that if it's too much for her to be a godparent then u will relive her of her duties as a godparent and will get some else who will talk to her daughter and treat like right.

Thats just rude and mean of her to not talk to her, she should be called wicked cold godparent.

Answer 5

There are a few options here. One, you could talk with them and mention that you aren't happy about the treatment. Two, the way you let them treat your child will be the way this child 'thinks' people should treat them in the future. Not good at all.

So, get off your question and move fast and wise and clear up your childs life.
luv Ava

Answer 6

Then tell the Godparent she can no longer be your child's godparent. Obviously you would not want your child to be with her if something happened to you, think about it.

Answer 7

Ask her to tell you how she feels about your daughter.
There could be some information or missunderstanding that you are missing between your daughter and her godparent.

Answer 8

find a new godparent, would you want someone like this raisng your child if heaven forbiid, that something happened to you, and she was the only one left to take care of her, I know I wouldn't, and it's pretty obvious by the way she acts that she does care about your childs feelings or yours,

Answer 9

Defend your child against this adult and put a stop to it. Send her a Hallmark card to officially denounce her status as Godmother.

Answer 10

Officially terminate her role as godparent.