I'm not asking in any effect to my own situation, but more curious as to what people think about. Some people tend to think that living together before marriage causes a high divorce rate and is just a bad idea. Others believe that it helps to lower the divorce rate, considering if they can't live together before marriage - then they won't get married. What are your opinions?
2006-06-22 16:11:35 · 19 answers · asked by BabyFirefly 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think its better 2 live wit the person be4 u are married. That's what me and my husband did, we lived 2gether for 2yrs be4 we took the plunge. lol. I jus think that what happens if u do marry a person and then move in wit them and u totally can't stand living 2gether? then what happens? u're eitehr stuck or u get a divorce.
2006-06-22 16:15:34 · answer #1 · answered by ANC_40 3 · 1⤊ 4⤋
Well I had a gf for 10 years and to be honest with u it was basically the same thing as having a personal prostitute.. U have to spend all kind of time and money on them before the actually give some sort of affection.. But if ur a girl I'm sure it's great cause u get **** bought for u and a free lay
2016-03-27 01:37:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on the couple. One couple I know did live with each other and didn't get married. The guy had all the benefits and the girl never got a ring or anything to show he loved her. So this guy, you should say goodbye to.
Then there's the guy who will live with you, give you a ring, and make some promise that eventually you'll get married. I think that at least is a promise. If you give too much too soon, you get nothing. Of course, that's my opinion and not everyone will agree. But you shouldn't give away too much. Then there won't be anything special for later on.
2006-06-22 16:17:36 · answer #3 · answered by fran c 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't know about living together, but spending ample amount of time in a "living" setting, like grocery shoppin, paying utility bills, cooking and cleaning around the house is a must.
If you're serious about marriage, you need to know how you two function and communicate in a family setting. It isn't the same as going on dates and going out. I have been with my fiance for 7 years and he just got a home 2 years ago. We have spent a lot of time together at the house for example, and we have come close to breaking up because it is a different world!
You need to know how you two react to cleaning and household responsibilites. For example, before we got serious he told me I could paint our living room pink and purple. Well, I told him that I wanted to paint the bathroom green and yellow. He was very upset! I wanted to see what his reaction was and I got it. You will be very suprised about the habbits people have because when you don't have any privacy that is when you see who a person really is. There isn't any fluff or predending. It's just raw and original. I strongly suggest it.
2006-06-22 16:17:47 · answer #4 · answered by bridetobebrandie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think living together before marriage is completely nesscesary. Sure it's something like playing house but you don't want to play house after your married and fiqure out that you hate little things about each other. I told my boyfriend we would have to live together at least a year before we even considered marriage.
2006-06-22 16:26:41 · answer #5 · answered by ashez 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think of it this way. I lived with my ex husband after we got married, NOT before. We ended up divorcing after him abusing me for many years.
I live with my fiance now and we get along great. I believe, like he does, that we will be together the rest of our lives as we get along so great and believe in so many of the same things.
So, I personally believe that living together before marriage is the way to go.
2006-06-22 17:26:22 · answer #6 · answered by honey 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well yes it is good to love together for awhile before you get married because then is the time you need to realize if you can be together like that and if it don't work out then less paperwork and no divorce after sooo yeah it is a good thing
2006-06-22 16:15:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think its a bad idea a marrige is about getting to grow together and getting to know one and other and when you live with someone before you marry then there is really nothing good about getting to know eachother
2006-06-22 16:30:33 · answer #8 · answered by sony93931 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that living tooogether prior to marriage is a great idea as it gives you good insight as to what things willl be like once you get married
2006-06-22 16:17:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
As a guy... I can say that I would not marry a girl that lived with me... "Why buy the cow when you get the milk for free?" It leads to not wanting to get married so that nothing changes.
2006-06-22 16:18:53 · answer #10 · answered by dudeabides 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that it is a good idea. You can see what they are really like when you live with them, before you tie the knot. You are not obliged to live with them anymore if you aren't married. You can always pack up and leave. But if you are married... well that's a different story.
2006-06-22 16:15:45 · answer #11 · answered by justicejkchambers 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋