i told my parents i did not whant this my mom says shes doing what she thinks is right but shes the only one that sees it that way but what scares me the most if she wins my dad said he will move away out of state!! what should i do?
2006-06-22 16:08:05 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Wow, I feel for you. Sounds like you are in the middle of things. Everything. I bet all you want is to be happy , and a kid. Right!
Life isn't fair, and I think you are finding this out early in life. Do you keep a journal? Do you see a counsellor? You need to vent.
Your parents should not involve you. You need to stand up for yourself and be honest and tell it as 'you feel it'. If you want to see both, see both. See the judge on your own. Don't listen to all their problems, and mention that you are a young person and don't need all this weight on your shoulders honey.
You can email me. I would listen to you.
luv Ava
2006-06-22 16:10:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This has got to be tough for you - It sounds like both of your parents are talking more with their emotions than a clear head. But since they are going to court, the judge will also have a say in what is best not only for you but for everybody involved. If you have the chance to be able to say anything, don't be afraid to speak up. You are what matters here - and you have alot of people here willing to listen to you even if you just feel the need to vent. I hope everything goes well for all of you, but you especially.
2006-06-22 16:46:27 · answer #2 · answered by socalmom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Insist on being allowed to talk to the judge. Then you tell him you want Joint Legal AND Joint Physical Custody, with equal time with both parents. You have to say it that way, with those words.
Not to be mean, but Mothers have all of the power, and they will try to have all the custody time they can get, because they are trying to get the father to have to pay her more child support. It has nothing to do with just wanting more time with the child. Mothers want to financially hurt the father, so he can't afford to live in a nice place, and can't afford to date anyone else.
Sorry to put it that way, but that's how it works. You should be allowed to talk to both of their lawyers, and see what they say, but DO NOT talk about the money part!
Good luck!!!!! Be strong!!!!!
2006-06-22 16:19:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your parents to stop putting you in the middle of their problems. And tell Dad that he really hurted you with that statement. That was totally thoughtless and scared you more than you needed to be. Tell them that they need to be there for you if they can't be there for each other. Talk with a counselor at school or a trusted adult (aunt, uncle, etc) who will speak to them on your behalf about how they're jostling you in this divorce mess. Good luck, dear.
2006-06-22 16:24:08 · answer #4 · answered by sacredmud 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don;t take what your dad saod to heart. he is more than likely saying it out of anger and being hurt.
Ask domestic relations if you can voice your opinion in court too.
If your old ebough the court will consider what ype of living arrangements you want. Of course you will need to discuss it with both your parents.
2006-06-22 16:20:44 · answer #5 · answered by lovingfeathers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋