i came home from work to find a note saying this is best. we may have fought 4 days out of a week but i never thought divorce was an option especially being with him for 15 years.. he left his ex for me and after he started this job he has been acting different. i did nothing wrong. he says he loves me but he wants divorce and he wants his life back... reallly confused!!!!
2006-06-22 16:06:11 · 14 answers · asked by angeleyes 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i dont think he is cheating.. but we only have been apart for 7 weeks. and he says he needs money to get his life going.. and left me with all bills.. he is a good man i dont know what hes thinking. he would never do this to me .out of the blue .he was acting nervous the last month and but i had no warning of this . and i am racking my brain to figure out what i did wrong,,,,,
2006-06-22 16:18:49 · update #1
it is easy for people to say move on and find another but we have a love that was so wonderful and . all i know is when he started his job he road with a gay guy and thats when he got real distant. i dont want to think that but i have ran out of guesses.. i am 51 he is 54..
2006-06-22 16:24:07 · update #2
a few of you may be right. but its hard to except. when that exact day he said lets go to a movie and eat tonight!! and when i got home i thught it was a love note .i was the love of his life.. i am shocked......
2006-06-22 16:30:47 · update #3
i have been involved with him for 16 years and he got a divorce from his ex of 24 years to marry me!! how can he just walk away ? i do know he is at his sisters and i also know he is not with any one, evry time i call he is watching tv so what the heck is wrong with him?
2006-06-23 14:25:02 · update #4
why does everyone thnk he is cheating on me????i need some hope here maybe you all are right but to know him it just dont seem possible i am guessing at one thing.. his ex kicked him out because he was emailing 3 women on int and he moved in with me and i got a computor to email my daughter in iraq. usmc. and i wouldnt let him on it so day by day he got more angry. but didnt say what was wrong . but i notice his cigerettes were in ashtray by comp. and he coldnt get in ... u think thats it?????
2006-06-23 18:04:17 · update #5
anyone gonna answer??? now he is complaining on phone his sister has to many kids and he dont know where to go but yet he wont come home... what is with him?? drugs? i know its not anyone else!!
2006-06-28 03:38:41 · update #6
No since in crying now or asking for advice. It was okay to leave his ex for you so now it is your turn. Sorry but karma is a bad thing.
2006-06-29 16:41:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I see that u put he would never do this 2 u.. but HE HAS. And 4 him 2 leave all the bills 4 u that's not a real man and he doesn't love u, obviously. He wouldn't jus up and leave 4 no reason at all. Either he's been seeing some1 else or he jus doesn't want 2 be wit u nemore, i'm sorry 2 say. He has obviously been thinking about this 4 a while. And 2 leave u a note telling u that's jus messed up, he needs 2 be a real man and tell u the REAL reason he wants a divorce. U deserve that much, u jus need 2 let him go, get ur own life and start doin things 4 u.
2006-06-22 23:22:59 · answer #2 · answered by ANC_40 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him personally. ask him what made him decide to end your marriage. if he says he's no longer happy, then maybe you should set him free. maybe he still loves you, but maybe he's had enough.
there's no point in staying in a relationship if both of you are unhappy. marriage is a partnership. it cannot be handled by one person only. the marriage may go on for years but if it's not fruitful, it's like wasting your life away. if he's not happy anymore, let him go. you cannot force him to stay with you. it will just get worse and in the end, even respect might be lost. an argument once in a while is part of a healthy relationship but fighting a lot puts a strain to it.
2006-06-22 23:38:41 · answer #3 · answered by Riababy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am gonna say he has probably gotten bored with you. And he misses his independance. He didn't think it through when he decided to get married. Thats the problem with so many marriages, people DO NOT think it through and have no idea what they are getting into. They get married for "Status" not for love. Sorry that you are getting screwed but it looks like he doesn't want to work it out, so just get a divorce painlessly and find someone alot better.
2006-06-22 23:17:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm...i had a similar situation as urs...i married for 2 yrs with no kids...my husband started to act diff too after he changed a job..and wanted a divorce so i feel that ppl do change...so now i guess mayb hes headin off in a diff direction as you. like the song sometimes love jus aint enuff...you need so much to maintain a marriage relyin on love is not enuff...communication is a big part of it...i feel that for guy to come up with tis decision is usually relate to accumlative feelin eg..you guys might be fightin over the same issue for a lot of times... so i guess u hve to be strong and move on...
2006-06-22 23:51:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey he has meet someone else! Or maybe he is having a midlife crisis or something. Either way you can either say see ya to and move on then make him pay when he comes crawling back. Or you can find someone who truly makes you happy and there is no fighting
2006-06-22 23:13:34 · answer #6 · answered by misty a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not the love of his life. Your love isn't wonderful. HELLO.....you were fighting 4 days out of 7. Your relationship was dysfunctional and you're not meant for each other. Obviously.
2006-06-23 00:28:16 · answer #7 · answered by smurfette_au2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lifes to short to lived tied up aorund someone who doesnt love you stop defending him he left you beacuse he doesnt want to be with you and dont call him or cry to him about how much you miss him if he comes back then it was meant to be if not then move on with your life
2006-06-22 23:22:01 · answer #8 · answered by sony93931 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TOTALLY CHEATING!
Sorry babe...consider yourself lucky to find out BEFORE the babies came.
2006-06-22 23:14:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, he has another women or 2, divorce him!
2006-06-22 23:17:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋