Should we have to pay for everyone's dinner??? Its going to be our parents, siblings, and grandparents.
2006-06-22 15:37:51 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
get everyone to give you cash as wedding gifts, then you can afford to pay for it
2006-06-22 16:04:27 · answer #1 · answered by Wendy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have made the suggestion, therefore the invitation - you (and your new spouse) pay. Even family would be considered guests. If you had invitations given out and the wording was Mr & Mrs X & X request your presence... then that means your parents being Mr & Mrs X would pay. If John and Mary announce their marriage... then John and Mary the couple are paying.
Depending on where you dine, somebody picking up the tab is a very generous gift. Good luck to both of you in new life together.
2006-06-22 22:44:29 · answer #2 · answered by socalmom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter did this....We being her parents foot most of the bill...since you are inviting....but your family knows your financial ability...hopefully..they will help out. If not and not to be embarrassed...make sure you know exactly how many will attend...have a Credit card handy. Also if they bring others with them..let them know you already had a budget. If you have big drinkers...also let them know Tea is fine but my budget won't allow for alcohol.
Do this way before the dinner so everyone has an idea of what you can and can't afford. Most people know hopefully...and won't get offended...I always try to accommodate my family and friends or anyone..for that matter. We all have are limits on what we can spend.
2006-06-22 22:49:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definately pay. I did the same thing as far as courthouse wedding, you have no idea how much money you just saved. I shudder every time I hear someone talk about how much everything at their wedding cost. Actually I bet you will NOT be allowed to pay, so try, and at least you'll look good!!
2006-06-22 22:41:46 · answer #4 · answered by elross 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably since if you had a wedding somewhere else you would have had to buy the food and have a reception. But I had my wedding at the courthouse and we just went home, ordered chinese and got busy for 4hrs.
2006-06-22 22:47:40 · answer #5 · answered by amissybell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just went to a friend's wedding that was the same as yours and afterwards we went to dinner. The couple paid...there were 10 people other than themselves.
2006-06-22 22:40:51 · answer #6 · answered by MJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say offer but I bet no one will let you touch the check
Or if financially strapped ask your parents or siblings before hand if they can pay as a gift to you.
2006-06-22 22:42:11 · answer #7 · answered by G L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As in any marrige nowadays. The parents of both groom and bride split the costs.
Not everyone does it this way, Do what you feel is right.
2006-06-22 22:41:52 · answer #8 · answered by Rainbow_Crayon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so - I would assume that someone would pick up the tab for you two. Just my opinion, I don't know what etiquette would dictate in that situation.
Actually, just checked, if you want to stick to tradition, the bride's parents pay for it.
2006-06-22 22:40:28 · answer #9 · answered by Just Me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you should not. You should only pay for your parents and maybe the grand parents the siblings can pay for themselves.
2006-06-22 23:20:20 · answer #10 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋