I don't get it! What is the need of these young teens and preteens( 10-15) need to date?

Question

You see it here all the time. These little kids looking for a boyfriend or girlfriend. What is the need??? What kind of parent allows a child under the age of 16 to date??

I am 33 years old now. But when I was a kid I didn't know anybody in Jr. High that was dating and the only people in High school that were dating were at least 16. I wasn't allowed to be on group dates or on dates at all until I was 16. And the same rules apply to my own kids. ( I have 1 one the way and a son that is almost 3) . No dating of any kind until they are 16. And If they go behind my back they won't be able to date until they are 18 and out of my house.

Can some one give me a good reason why these little kids need to date??? And can a parent give me a good reason why they allow their kids to date at such a young age???

Answer 1

i think you should be able to start dating when your 12... its good cause you can experience what kind of people you like or dont like so you know what kind of husband/wife to look for when your older. and i think that you can fall in love at any age =]

Answer 2

Well first off i am not worried about what other people's kids do cause i worry about my own.

Kids get crush's and that is no crime.

I started dating when i was 15 and i am still with the same person. We have been together for 11 years and have a 4 year old.
And we just got married on valentine's day after all these years. We are now 26.

When you try to lock your kid up and you are very stict with one that are the ones that are plum wild.
Just because you might say no dating until when ever you can't watch a kid 24/7 and some will sneak out and do it if they are going too.

But i see it like this who cares as long as it is not your kid. I can't be worried with other peoples kids i have my own to worry about

Answer 3

As a teen, I think I can give you a fair criticism. Although I think dating at 10 is unnecessary, 13 and above is a reasonable age. The "point" of dating is it is just another social relationship. The later you start, the harder it is for people to get what they deserve from relationships. Also starting earlier (say 14), is healthy (in my opinion) because typically there is no sex or pressure to have sex at this age. Therefore, especially girls, realize what is really important in these types of relationships. They realize that sex is not essential for a romantic relationship. They will not be as easy to pressure into sex if they know that they deserve better.
As for "going behind your back", it is pretty easy for a kid to do without their parents noticing. Unfortunately, I know many kids who have done this, and it was realtively easy for them not to get caught. Not because they're parents didn't pay attention, but because of all of the different ways technology provides to communicate from even home. it would be a much better idea for you not to "force" your kids to go behind your back, which is essentially what you are doing. You would have a much more trusting relationship with your kids if you keep the door open and let them know that they can confide in you. Hope that helps!

Answer 4

It is more like I dont get it why these few parents dont allow their kids to date at 10-15. It is all about whether or not the parents trust their kids and if they have good grades. Some parents are just creeps and compare what it was like when they were young to what it is like now. They shouldn't do that cause it just gets the kids mad. So get over it

Answer 5

I'm 13 going on 14, and tons of kids in my school are dating. I've heard of kids who have had cute little relationships in 3rd GRADE. it's nothing big, kids just date for a few months then it's over. It's not like we're all looking for 'the one' or anything. There's no harm or shame in dating at age 13.

You sound like a strict parent, lighten up a bit. Us kids learn best from our own mistakes.

Answer 6

So what if kids get mad. Kids ARE kids. They're not adults yet, they're not ready for big decisions. You don't treat kids like adults, cause alot of them just can't handle it.

Situations vary, but kids shouldn't be in such a rush to date. I agree with a responder above, dating is to find a spouse. The PURPOSE of dating is to find a mate. Kids under 16 don't need those yet. Parents need to keep tighter track of what they're kids are doing. Letting them date is tempting misfortune. First kissing, then hugging, then Fu

Answer 7

As kids get older they start to get attracted to the oppisite sex (or same sex) . Nothing anybody can do about it cuz its natural. But theres not much parents can do about it cuz its going to happen, so all you can do is just let the kids do what they do but make sure they dont take it out of control. The crush doesnt last long and it helps the kids learn how to treat other people and help them for the future.

Answer 8

I am 13, and u r right. There is no reason to let kids date so young. I have personally been out with 2 boys. I now regret going out with both of them. They were my age (don't get the wrong idea), and both times it turned into something stupid.
Usually whats happens is that the 'cool'(*cough*freaks) kids r all going out so everyone else wants to as well. At the time my 'friends' were pressuring me (i am now above their pressuring). Both of these boys were my friends. In the first case these 'friends' who got us to go out in the first place broke us up. Second time round, he started liking my friend. I now think that it's ok that he liked my friend, but at the time i was devastated and did some stupid things.
In both instances i lost some good friends, and i wish i had waited. I am now in Yr.7 and have sworn to wait until i am older.
Dating at a young age only causes hurt, and wrecks friendships.

I know this may not have answered your question, but I am supporting u. I envy your kids, i wish my Mum had done that.

Answer 9

Whats wrong dating at 13-15 its not a crime just because we are kids that does not mean we are 2 young to be dating we are just too young to have sex just calm down we need a little fun besides playin in yards we are growing up

Answer 10

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