My boyfriend and I have hinted around about marriage and now it seems we are hinting around about having a baby. It is perfect timing for me but we keep "accidentally" not using birth control and then saying we could get pregnant light heartedly... I feel like I may be deceiving him because I really do want a baby!
2006-06-22 14:29:57 · 22 answers · asked by anji d 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
You aren't tricking him in anyway because you are both "skipping" forms of birth control. Tricking him would be poking holes in he condoms, telling him you're taking birth control pills when you aren't, etc etc. I think you should make sure this what you both want before you actually get pregnant but definitely no trickery.
2006-06-22 14:34:05 · answer #1 · answered by Giving/Seeking Advice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said "we" keep accidently not using birth control. Does that mean YOU aren't taking your pills or that you don't take them at all and "we" forget to put a condom on?
If he knows you're not taking birth control pills and neither one of you are making the effort to use a condom - then no - I wouldn't say you are tricking him into getting you pregnant.
BUT
If he doesn't know you're not taking birth control pills and you're not using a condom (or if you are poking holes in the condoms) - then yes - I'd say you need to be more honest with him.
What you both need to do is sit down and have a serious discussion about the future. You should also tell him that you definitely want a baby. It sounds to me like both of you want the same things, but are scared of consciencously taking the steps to get married and start a family.
Good luck, honey!
2006-06-22 14:39:56 · answer #2 · answered by ♥Melissa♥ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a feeling that neither one of you re ready to have a baby! Especially if you are "tricking" our bf into it. You should really ask yuorself what you will be doing to the life you are bringing into the world!! I had my first at 19, by the time he was 6 mnths old I was doing all on my own!! Daddy dearest was history, we weren't married, and I was on the pill. So take it from a "been there done that"- it's too hard and no fun alone. Be honest with your bf, but most importantly be honest with yourself!!
2006-06-22 14:53:04 · answer #3 · answered by suequek 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dr Phil had people on his show last week who had tricked the othre person into getting pregnant and it turned out horrible. They regretted their actions and they were on the road to divorce. You have to tell your bf how you really feel. If he feels the same way, great. If not, then at least you were honest.
You might want to look at what is really going on though. Why are you afraid to let nature take its course?
2006-06-22 15:04:36 · answer #4 · answered by sassy_girl_stl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, I would just in a conversation with him, one day say by us not using protection it increases our risk of getting pregnant. Just because you really want a baby right now and you have half way discussed it doesn't mean that you are tricking him
2006-06-22 14:39:37 · answer #5 · answered by kris 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he knows your not using birth control then he knows the risk hes taking by having sex with you so your not tricking him, but do your self a favor and talk to him about it and make sure if you do "accidentally" get pregnant hes not going to do a disappearing act
2006-06-22 15:20:58 · answer #6 · answered by Heather H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's just as responsible for birth control as you are. So, if you're tricking him, he must be tricking you, too! Just make sure you want the baby for the right reason...
2006-06-22 14:53:00 · answer #7 · answered by brevejunkie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good and if hes stringing you along ,,you can hate each other on your childs birthdays ,or the anniverarys of your meeting,, just be up front men dont get subtle we like girls spread in magazines and playing ball games ,,we arent all rocket scientists ,,well i may be,, but just say it when your cuddling ask him im wanting to reproduce a child thats got your eyes can you get behind that and he will
2006-06-22 14:45:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you're foolheartedly taking marriage and pregnancy way too lightly; there's nothing lighthearted about marriage and pregnancy with or without marriage. neither event is a game that you can put away when you're done playing; major changes take place when either one is, or both are introduced into your lives. you better rethink it all!
2006-06-22 14:37:20 · answer #9 · answered by loving 40+ 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he KNOWS you're not using birth control and continues to have sex with you, then he knows the risks.
2006-06-22 14:34:17 · answer #10 · answered by LeAnne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋