I am married, been married 13 years. i love my husband a lot, but sometimes i so do not like him, well alot of the times but i do love him.. what is my problem? can it be fixed. we r not having problems and he knows i feel this way
2006-06-22 13:52:54 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There's no problem. You're allowed to "not like" anyone part of the time. You're just recognizing that he's not a perfect person and there are habits or modes of thinking that you don't approve of. That is true of anyone. You know him better, so you see more flaws. You just need to concentrate on the good parts, and gently tell him about the bad a little at a time.
2006-06-22 13:55:33 · answer #1 · answered by PuterPrsn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is sooooo very normal in a relationship. Just hang in there if you are not having any problems. Make a list of his good qualities, the reasons why you married him in the first place. Someone told me once, before you get married you should have your eyes wide open and after you are married you should have them almost all the way shut. If we dwell on the negative we will not be happy, try to look for the good things.
2006-06-22 15:02:52 · answer #2 · answered by myjamsandwich 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not wrong, but it is possible. If you are not having problems and everybody know what time it is, then leave it alone.
I don't know what your problem is, 13 years is a long time to be with someone you don't like a lot of the time. What is it about him that you don't like a lot of the time. Answering that question probably can lead you to finding out what your problem is.
If it ain't broke, (you are not having problems), then don't fix it.
Maybe you should seek counseling to find out why you feel the way you do.
2006-06-22 14:03:50 · answer #3 · answered by Cherokee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Feelings arent right or wrong---and sometimes they arent even relevant. I have been married 13 years in sept. and I think it is pretty normal to love but not like your spouse. After awhile it seems like they are almost like a brother. Do stuff to make yourself feel good about yourself like putting on makeup or dancing and watch a good movie. Sometimes movies can be very inspiring( I don't mean the sex kind either). And pray for your marriage--God can do anything. :0)
2006-06-28 13:34:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is something there to be salvaged it seems. I would recommend counseling if he is willing and find what made you like him from the beginning and try to get that back. If you're still in love in addition to loving him than you still have something worth saving. There's a problem if you don't like him even though you feel there's not look deep and find what things you really don't like about him and ask him the same about you.
Then go from there to try and resolve your issues.
2006-06-30 07:10:54 · answer #5 · answered by G L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
alot of people love thier significant other but dislike them sometimes, sometimes they do things that are agrivating and so you are not happy about it, but it does not stop you from loving them, but the most important things is that you have a big line of communication. wich means when things he or she does bother you , you need to discuss it so that you dont feel so bad or hurt about it, it gives the other person a chance to let you know why they do what you do and you will get some clarification and they might learn what certain things not to say around you. good luck!
2006-06-22 14:05:39 · answer #6 · answered by Blonds Rock 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is totally acceptable. I still love my ex-husband for many reasons (3 Children) but I do not like him.
Try to make it work but get out if the feeling persists and he does not help try to fix things!
2006-06-22 13:59:41 · answer #7 · answered by LN has3 zjc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is the normal ebb and flow of a marriage. That is why marriage is more of a committment for thoes worse times that is why the vow says "for better or worse in sickness and in health for richer or poorer" You are committing to the person! Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
2006-06-22 13:57:10 · answer #8 · answered by xx_muggles_xx 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, I feel you! I too, am married and love my husband with all my heart. But... I CAN'T STAND HIM SOMETIMES! It's because the things our men say and/or do, are not always things we agree with. This is the irritant factor. Like I always say..."If it has a penis, it's usually retarded"! Just remember, without the irritant factor, life would be blan and lonely!
2006-06-22 13:58:59 · answer #9 · answered by pink_phish22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That can't be. Tell him why you dislike him...and try to come over your momentarly hatred.
I mean if you "love" him, you must be able to forgive him for his shortcomings...if you can't then you should definitely work it out with help from a professional, a good book, a romantic night...whatever that helps. After all what's the joy if you don't like the person you share a bed with?
2006-06-22 13:58:17 · answer #10 · answered by HK1980 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋