when i first went online i told lies to make me sound more important than i am--now ive met someone and we want to take relationship further and meet in real life--how do i back down from lies and still let him know i love him?
2006-06-22 13:46:54 · 13 answers · asked by cherryb113ml 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
My Dear Friend:
You have to be honest and open with the person: As has been said, no relationship started on lies can survive... and you will always get found out if you do!!
You have to explain yourself to him, as you have to us!!
Be honest about yourself, and 'WHY' you have said/done the things you have... & Apologise... tell him you were fearful that he might not like you if he new the truth, that you thought your life was borring in comparison to his, and that you thought he would think you borring...Again, I can't tell you what to say..only you know the lies you have told, and the reasons behind them...
It is up to you to come clean with him, and hope he will understand and forgive you... If he does not: then you will have learnt a vital lesson not to lie again!! If he does you have the chance of a fresh start!!
Good luck & God Bless!!!
2006-06-22 14:01:35 · answer #1 · answered by englands.glory 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest. You never know, he may also have told a few lies. He may be relieved to be able to set the record straight too.
There is of course the chance that he will be angry or upset because you presented your self as a person that you are not. It's up to him if he forgives you or not, I hope this experience helps you realise that lying is wrong.
Real love is unconditional. Lets just hope that he's in love with "you" and not the character you created. Good luck.
2006-06-22 21:17:11 · answer #2 · answered by fidget 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to come clean with him and tell him the truth. Explain to him that you were trying to make yourself look better for whatever reason (insecurity or whatever) and tell him the complete truth about yourself. Let him know that you value him and are telling him the truth because you care for him and want to be honest with him about everything.
2006-06-22 20:50:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
start with being honest...and if im honest, how do u know that hes telling the truth about him, as u havent met yet!? have a look thru yahoo answers and see if there is any one else asking the same thing, it could be the other half of you!!!
2006-06-22 21:07:35 · answer #4 · answered by splight 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only way out is to tell the truth. explain why u lied and apologize and then never do it again. you will just have to hope the other person is forgiving.
2006-06-22 21:31:32 · answer #5 · answered by crophilia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him how you feel about him - then flat out admit that you lied, and why. Then accept whatever he decides - even if that means he wants nothing to do with you. Learn from this mistake.
2006-06-22 20:49:42 · answer #6 · answered by UNITool 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must fess up to these lies, because no relationship started with lies will last.
2006-06-22 20:49:36 · answer #7 · answered by maat13101 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest.
If he's charitable enough he may hang on to you. Depends on how much the realisation of these lies will hurt him...
2006-06-22 20:50:29 · answer #8 · answered by badgerbadger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Learn a lesson... tell the truth from day one, you cant be caught out that way....
2006-06-22 22:14:46 · answer #9 · answered by engineer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell the truth but in a joking way
2006-06-22 20:50:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋