Last Tuesday my oldre boy David was at his friends house while I was at my youngest boys b-game. He called me and told me he biffed it while riding his skateboard and his left eye was bleeding. I made arrangements for Justins coach to give him a ride home after the game and took David to the ER. David made me promise not to call his Dad becouse he was afraid of what his Dad was going to say to him. Hids Dad is verbaly abusive. So I didnt call him. Well, his Dad found out came bursting into Davids room and sure as **** started yelling at him and me. Me for not calling him and at David becouse he was stupid for doing what he did. His Dad and I are divorced going through a custody battle. Any way , his Dad left and without telling me took my youngest. I called him and told him to have Justin back in ten min. he said "Hell No" so at this point after getting yelled by him early and my son getting yelled byhim earlier I stared to cry out of pure frustraion.
2006-06-22 13:44:47 · 6 answers · asked by leftlobejen 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
YOU aren't doing anything wrong, your ex IS. He kidnapped your son. I would press charges against him. Once custody papers have been filed and a battle is going on, one parent cannot take the child(ren) from the other parent without their knowledge and have to make arrangements to see the child(ren). And he came bursting into your sons room? How did he get in? Did your other son let him in? He is trespassing if he just barged in.
I would talk with an/your attorney and find out what should be done. I would personally file kidnapping charges on him. This will not look good for him to the judge when it comes time to decide where the kids go. Get all of this done before you have to go to court and before things get worse.
Your ex needs serious help and I would make sure that my attorney knows that you want him to get help before he gets to see the kids unsupervised. He not only needs anger management classes, he also needs help for his abusive behaviors and ways of talking.
2006-06-22 14:11:22 · answer #1 · answered by honey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing you did wrong was not tell your ex about the injury. Even though you knew he was going to yell, he had a right to know. But your ex sounds like a total control freak. He is basically trying to paint you as an unfit mother. I would record all this behavior to use in court. He obviously has some issues and is using the kids to get back at you. Stand firm and tell him, you are sorry you did not call right away but the way he handled the situation was wrong, and that if he does not return your other son you will be calling the police, your attorney, etc. Good Luck.
2006-06-22 21:09:05 · answer #2 · answered by meggiek97 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good for you getting out of the situation. It's also wonderful that your kids feel they can go to you. You're not doing anything wrong. It's too bad that he yells at you in front of the kids. I hope that you have some people that have seen this to back you up in court so that you get the kids. Just don't feel like you're doing anything wrong. You're doing everything you can, don't blame yourself becasuse he's being an ***. You can't control that. Good luck.
Hang on, it's not kidnapping if he is a legal guardian of them. If she's granted full custody of them and she doesn't give him permission, then it is. If custody and visitation hasn't been established then he has the right to them. I learned that the hard way.
2006-06-22 21:12:17 · answer #3 · answered by motherclucker41 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thre comes a time when a wman has GOT to stand up for herself! If you keep letting him verbally abuse you especially in fromt of the children, it does you no good! But you know this already! Practice in a mirror talking to your image as if it were him. Don't get into a shouting match with him, you will defeat the purpose. Learn to speak to him in a steady even tone, not a meek mild one. Don't ever get angry and if you do do not show it especially in front of your children.. Don't ever reach his level or intensity!! Stay focused and calm! This will take practice and a lot of patience on your part. When the level gets heated, dismiss the children to another room.. You are an adult also, and it's hard i know.. Last but not least, don't you ever be afraid! Good luck!
2006-06-22 21:13:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were wrong for not telling him but understandably you didn't want the inevitable abuse. He kidnapped your other kid and need to contact the authorities and let your attorney know what he did and keep a record of his actions.
Be careful, he sounds off the wall and he might do something drastic. You might need an order of protection. Like I said talk to a lawyer.
2006-06-22 21:11:44 · answer #5 · answered by marianlaughs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to call your lawyer to settle this,,,he has no right to just take the child away if you have the full custody....it's call kidnapping...he might loose the battle ...so you must let your lawyer know what's been happening....
2006-06-22 21:53:51 · answer #6 · answered by sstooc2001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋