hey can any girls help me?

Question

why can't women get along in the work place and they always talk bad about one another. And the only reason why they do it is just to see if they can get more friends. Women only please anwser this if you know the anwser.

Answer 1

I completely know what you mean.....I used to work around a bunch of girls some older than me and some younger...there was this one girl in particular who was basically friends with everyone but didn't hesitate to talk about you behind your back to other people...I think that me and two other people were the only friends she really even recognized as a "friend".....I know that she would even say things to people's faces and hurt a lot of people's feelings that way...what was bad about it most of all is that she was a customer service manager....which is so ironic because she had no social skills at all....she was fun to be around but I thought she was harsh to people too.....I don't know for sure if she did it to get more friends but I know anyone who ever started working there wanted to be friends with her...I guess so she wouldn't make fun of them too! I always pretty much got along with everybody and anyone who thought different I always told them they didn't have to be my friend because I was there for the money!

Answer 2

Women tend to be more emotional and business is just not an emotional forte, It is those women who do not have what it takes to succeed in business that are the ones who fall into this pattern. The key is to kick *** at what you do: be the best, smartest, work the hardest / longest hours, bring in the most money / clients, or develop the best product / solution and then just ACCEPT the fact that women (and men) are going to talk about you all the time, but mostly out of jealosy for your accomplishments -- again, just be the absolute best and you won't care what people are saying b/c those who are serious about business will focus on your accomplishments, help to mentor you and guide your career -- the rest will just continue to gossip and be "mean." But who cares, you should always be caring, polite, helpful -- but truly, who cares!

Good luck, and get to work now ;)

Answer 3

It's because they want to take the focus away from themselves. If a women feels threatened by another woman, then most of the time they will try to compensate for that feeling of inadequacy by trying to shift that focus on to someone else. It can be very trying to deal with someone who has an attitude like this. IF you are having problems in this department, then best advice that I can offer you is to avoid them, or just ignore them when you can.

Addressed to Roach: ( below)
I must be one lying a** b**** when I say that I have NEVER talked about another employee behind their back, and/ or to their face!! How can you dare to make a judgment like that when you haven't met ALL the women in the world!! I find that talking about people behind their backs can only lead to trouble, of the worst kind. I learned my lesson about backstabbing, and spreading rumors about people when I was in High School. It seems to me that you should have learned the same!

Answer 4

I am a woman who has worked with men for the past 15 years. I just prefer their company (I mean friendship-wise). I have been the subject of gossip, created by women. I just find them too talkative.

Women analyze everything, where men just accept things the way they are. Everyone is competative, one way or another and women seem to compete by using "stories", ie: who has the best story to tell. Not that men don't do this, but it's not such a competition for them (they compete more physically). Women are traditionally the story-tellers if you look back in history (native american, etc) - not JUST women, but the majority are. I guess it's just in our blood, but, personally, I prefer the simple conversations created by men. I've worked in construction (equipment operator), as well as farming (potato harvest).

I've also found that women who would rather hang out with men are better friends to me as well. Maybe we just understand each other better.

Answer 5

It is harder in the workplace for women... unfortantely a few women take this and run and make it harder for others to suceed by lying and starting rumors. It's a fact of life however don't fall into the trap because those people will always be discovered and fail in the long run

Answer 6

Well I am a 39 year old mother of one who has always took pride in myself and my experience was 9 out of every 10 issues with other women was jealousy when there was really no reason for it

Answer 7

i experienced this in my last job! a younger female( i wont say WOMAN because she is immature) was this was, very catty and jealous, she had to always be the center of attention and if she wasnt she would create ANY situation to get the attention, the women that i worked with couldnt stand her but she got away with it as i think she was being protected by mgmt. such a shame! i think its just JEALOUSY

Answer 8

I wouldn't say that it's to get more friends. It's hard when you have different personalities, ways of doing things, etc. I hate to cop out and say hormones, but I think that plays a part in it too.

Answer 9

just don't get urself caught in the middle...every person is raised differently and u can't just live in harmony with the rest of the people esp in a working environment since everybody has an attitude!!!!

Answer 10

it is not only in the workplace. women are just crazy creatures. It is sort of a never ending cycle...it really isn't to make friends its sort of a bonding thing to talk smack.