Why is it so hard to find a job and friends in a new town?

Answer 1

hope you'll find a great job and alloooooooooooooooooooooooooottttttttt of friends answer my last question please please please

Answer 2

Grapevine. In your hometown you might hear about a job from a friends cousin. Where you don't know anyone you have to do all the selling of yourself by yourself. If I run an office, for example, and one of my best workers says to me "my cousin's friend just finished school and is looking for a job. She really is a hard worker" when that person's resume comes up on my desk I am already predisposed to liking her. I may give her an interview just based on such a casual comment. In a new city, you don't have that grapevine working for you.
As for finding friends, we seem to meet most of our friends through our workplace or through friends we already have. So if you are looking for a job, then you don't know anyone yet. Hang tight though, you will get to know people. My suggestion is just to smile and be kind to everyone -- from the lady who parks her car next to yours to the person packing your bag at the supermarket. Ask them generic questions, they will respond, and in time you will be moving from the generic, and remember, these people have friends and family. So helping the lady with three kids carry in her groceries could get you introduced to her sister who happens to be interested in the same things you are.
Network yourself out. Join a club, become a regular at a local coffee shop (especially important in small towns, learn when the morning coffee is, and make sure you are there, they will start inviting you into their conversation), or take a class (any free class or inexpensive class offered by the town or at the Y will do, you will learn something and you will meet people) and before you know it you will have a growing network. (And don't forget computer sites as well, they can be very helpful).

Answer 3

It's not a nice thing to say...but I find a lot of towns can be, well...a tad inbred. Not literally, but the way that everyone knows everyone and more so, everyone seems to be related!

I'm living in a country town of 10,000 people for example - moved here 18 years ago with my parents and we still find it hard at times...a lot of favouritism goes on as bosses are related to employees and this person is related to that one - and there can often be (like here) family lines that might stretch back 100-150 years...or more! The landed gentry of the district who basically are known as faces...they all mesh and when you are new, even after this time...it's hard to break into that mesh of relatives and connections.

Good luck and do your best...you'll get there! The best advice is to go get out and get known - you'll be liked and more accepted that way...even though its hard. It's a shallow remark but even involvement in local profile sports can be wise - around here there is a lot of hype and fuss over the local footy team and even though they're just local guys playing footy, the town seems to love them...they become local icons.

Answer 4

I have the same experience everytime I start a new job.

People can be slow to warm to newcomers. It seems
that most of the effort would have to come from you,
Join a club or whatever interests you and send out
many resumes for your new job and follow-up at least
once every time for each application. Get in front of them.
It'll happen if your persistent

Answer 5

Maybe that town doesn't have that much jobs availible try starting a bit smaller. Try finding friends at public areas. Uh. I guess that might work.

Answer 6

Be patient, you can't eat the world in one day.......
if you have some sort of spiritual conviction start with others that share your beliefs at a church.
If you live in an apartment, try saying hi to your neighbors bit by bit.
If you can't get your dream job, start with anything partime, to get you busy and get your mind off your troubles, any job is a great place to meet other folks.

Answer 7

Ive lived where i am now for over half of my life and i still find it difficult to find a job and new friends.

Answer 8

your not accustomed to it and lets be honest here people can't trust other people anymore! give it some time and when you do get a job then you can meet new people and make new friends

Answer 9

because most of the time its all about who you know' and you dont know anyone i suggest you start makin friends

Answer 10

eventually u will find a way take ur time

Answer 11

because your a ******* loser!!! lol im just playing with you...