Let me know what you think. The key to succeding in a relationship or marriage is not finding the right person; its learning to love the person you found. We can not find lasting love, we must make it happen day by day good or bad. We have all heard of the labor of love. It takes time, money, effort,and lots of energy. Wisdom is the most important in learning to love the person we choose. When we first fell in love we did not have to do anything nature just took its course. It all jsut ahppened and we were in a honey moon stage for a long time. But when its all over and years have passed what can we do to keep the love alive. Are we truly with the right person or do we learn to love them?
2006-06-22 13:01:45 · 4 answers · asked by Nickerbockers 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Up date, ok so we do know the grass is always greener on the other side but we will still come to this same point so I left the ex for the new person do I love this person and can I learn to love them everyday. This will happen in every relationship. It isnt easier when we get married sometimes its harder.
As well I am not talking about settling either. I am talking about falling in love and being in a healthy relationship no settling.
2006-06-22 13:21:58 · update #1
Wow your question is deep. I agree that you must daily make the choice to stay and make things work with your loved one, but also if you really love them, the "loving" part shouldn't be that much work. Unfortunately, many people give up on their relationships these days because "the grass is always greener" and you never know until afterwards if you made the right choice.
2006-06-22 13:06:51 · answer #1 · answered by advicemom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wrong! The key to a good relationship or marriage is waiting for the person you feel is right for you. If you decide to settle then that's your choice, but don't get upset if things don't work out because you chose not to wait for someone you felt compatible with, in love with, attracted to in some way and not just physical. If you wait for this person things go more smoothly. That's not to say that there will be no bumps along the way, they just won't be as rough.
2006-06-22 20:14:54 · answer #2 · answered by Mic 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm..this is a good question. I don't think I can speak for ALL couples, so I will speak only for my relationship with my husband. I truly believe that we were meant to be together...to make a long story short, a lot of unusual things happened before my husband and I met; a lot of unusual things that ALLOWED us to meet. So we have always felt that God directed our paths so that we would eventually be together.
As for learning to love each other, I think this happened in the seven years that we dated before getting married. I don't believe in getting married right off the bat...you have to get to know that person before making that commitment. Once we faced challenges, sadness, and joy together as a 'dating' couple, we realized that we were ready to commit to each other for life.
So I think that people need to wait a while before committing to a marriage so that the marriage isn't the time when we learn to love our mate. If people wait until they are married to learn how to love each other, it is more likely that they will realize that they don't...and end in divorce.
2006-06-22 20:20:13 · answer #3 · answered by brains 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is much too profound a question to answer in a few short sentences. I have many opinions on this but it would take a long conversation to cover. Good luck with yours.
2006-06-22 20:08:45 · answer #4 · answered by Irish 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋