he even was talking to a guy friend of his on messenger saying sometimes he wishes he was single again cuz there was lots of good looking women running around, talking about fine p*ssy running around. he was talking bad about me to his friend. i went to check my email later that night, someone had sent me that entire conversation he and his friend had. i dont know if he is cheating( been thinking he might be) how do i know for sure?? how can i catch him? he doesnt have a cell phone so i cant do anything with that. im desperate please help me!
2006-06-22 12:52:22 · 23 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You should just casually confront him about the situation and show him the evidence that you have to be suspecting that you believe he is cheating. While you are confronting and he begins to get really upset for no reason that usually means he is lying. Ask him to gently tell you the truth and that is all you want to hear.
2006-06-22 12:56:44 · answer #1 · answered by MedStudent 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
damn.. that sux for sure!! Like the idiot writin' the 'advice column' sez.. I see red flags all over hell here. Curious about 'someone' (who'd that be?) sending you his entire e mail conversation. (That must be how ya found out about the p*ssy he's missin' out on, huh?) He damn sure doesn't sound happy.. some men.. well, they're just goddamned womanizers.. and honey, it sounds like ya just might've married yourself a player. I don't know.. They come on strong and all that love ya ****, but then later? they get bored. Maybe the best defense is an offense. When's the last time you guys had a hell of a fun time/what did you do when you were loving as hell? Try something there. I think here you ougtht to NOT come across in an 'attack mode' (difficult to be sure! it'd torment me no end not knowing too.. !) Do you really want to catch him (yes..) What would the end result be? You'd be hurt. Maybe he is just playing around and not actually doing anything, but, honey... you've got to do something FAST to spice up things. He just sounds bored. He might just 'deny' stuff and if you had the goods on him, it'd blow up, be a nice juicy ole fight.. and who needs that, right? (You don't.. don't make yourself sick over this.) You sound desperate and I'm trying to give ya good sound advice here.. good-luck.. (You are not the only one in this type of fix.. I find sometimes just this helps.. There are a lotta real shitty women out there.. whoever knowingly 'goes after' your husband's a low-life lying trampin' ho-bag .. and hell, they can die and rot in hell together.. keep that 'nice thought' in mind mel here gave ya if he's being untrue, o.k.?) keep it together.. melancholia
2006-06-22 20:16:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is an asshole anyways for talking bad about you to his friend so even if he isn't cheating you should dump him. And him saying how he wishes he was single so he can get a bunch of other "fine p*ssy" is disrespectful to say the least. He sounds like bad news, there are so many other guys out there that will treat you so much better. Don't settle for this loser.
2006-06-22 19:57:13 · answer #3 · answered by Isabella's Mommy Expecting #2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead of running around assuming things why don't you just talk to him honestly. Tell him how you feel and what you've heard - just be honest that you want to know if he is happy and whats going on with him. Don't be argumentative or confront him - be understanding no matter what he says. You both need open communication and respect along with the willingness to be honest with eachother.
If you go running around trying to find proof he's cheating or you go and accuse him falsley it's going to cause big issues. The easiest way, and probably less stressful way would be to just talk about it and if necessary get into counseling.
2006-06-22 20:01:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could follow him. Or you could find out where he is supposedly going beforehand and call the place with some made up excuse (i.e. "I was just calling to see what you wanted for dinner", or "Where did you put the _____, I can't find it"). Then you will have something ready to say, just in case he is there, AND you will be able to find out if that was really where he was going. You could also become friends with one of his friends, and let the friend know your concerns. No one knows men like their friends. Maybe he isn't cheating, maybe he is just absent minded, but one can't be too careful in these things-- prepare for the worst, but hope for the best. You obviously have two people to be concerned about, you and your son. Good luck!
2006-06-22 20:04:53 · answer #5 · answered by hh4pres 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, first of all calm down. If he is cheating you will see signs of attitude. Look for patterns in his disappearing acts. Usually they mess up some details. It's really hard for a person who is cheating on their spouse to keep everything straight. One lie on top of another, gets confusing. Don't push him against the wall, let him hang himself, and believe me he will. If you really believe he is cheating then hire someone to follow him, and if all else fails, then ask him outright. If he gets angry or defensive when you ask him, then you know he is cheating. Remember STAY CALM and Good Luck!
2006-06-22 19:59:58 · answer #6 · answered by js 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweety after all you have said about him and is conversation with a friend,I'm feeling like you and i think he is cheating on you..YOU can hire someone to follow him and take some pictures of who he is meeting and where they go..Sorry to say this but your husband,IS A DROP DEAD FRED..If you get your proof on him..KICK IS A*S RIGHT OUT THE FRONT DOOR..AND go on with your life and it will be a better life without DEAD FRED..Enjoy your new life,once he is gone for sure..TAKE CARE AND BE SAFE..
Clowmy
2006-06-22 20:10:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
every male type is identical. simple even 40+ guys think they've still got what it takes to get you or any other ***** hot.
in our 2nd yr together, my partner f*cked his former girlfriend, and mother of his boy. things went quiet. she never let up for 2yrs about us, being together, & one weekend, we didn't hear from her. then came the truth! "I HAVE TO TELL YOU SOMETHING, BUT BEFORE I DO, I DON'T WANT TO LOSE YOU. BUT SHE IS PREGNANT!! AND IT COULD BE MINE". he said it was because we were going through a rough patch- and basically said it was my fault that he fcked her. pathetic. pathetic is probably me I'm still with him. i found me a hottie with an 18ct gold peirced cock. and it rocked. he will never know- thats my personal revenge. even if you doubt that he would **** around, **** around on him, at least you'll feel good about you then, I DO.
I HAVE ABSOLUTELY NO REGRETS AND I DON'T FEEL ANY GUILT
2006-06-22 20:20:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What if I tell you, that my friend told me he saw you climbing out of a window last night around 3 o'clock in the morning.
Should I believe my friend? Did you climb out of that window? My friend said you did!
What was said was said and doesnt qualify for the truth. The truth is, I didnt' actually see you climb out of the window, so I'm choosing not to believe my friend.
2006-06-22 20:00:05 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There r alot of things u could do.
1)Smell his u-know-what
2)If one dont work, smell his undies
3)follow him, get a car fr. someone that he would know, or reginaze.
4)Check the history on his computer, and emails
5)Bug his car
I hope these ideal's help, and I hope that everything works out well for u.
2006-06-22 19:59:13 · answer #10 · answered by mimi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋