he is extremely jealous of all my guy friends and hates my good friend who is also a guy, i have stopped talking with all of my guy friends except my good friend. we found some internet game to play and my bf asked if my good friend played it with me, i messed up and said no. i just didnt want him to be upset with me. but he somehow found out the my friend did play the game, i didnt tell and neither did my friend. he now says that going through logs etc is good, and wishes that i would do that to his stuff. like he is trying to say its okay to go through my conversations. my friend is just that, a friend, honestly i would never dream of being anything more. now my bf says he doubts i love him. no matter what i say i am in the wrong. he is breaking my heart because i love him so much and he has no trust in me at all. what can i do to make him trust me.
2006-06-22 12:51:17 · 6 answers · asked by catsrina 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I like the last answer, by DKlyde - it shows how wrong your thinking is. Instead of asking how to get him to trust you, ask why the heck you want this guy to trust you. The answer is that you "love him so much." That is not a good answer, and you need to learn that now, rather than later. Love is both a feeling and an act of the will - you decide to act in a loving way even when you don't feel like it. He is NOT SHOWING YOU HE LOVES YOU.
Here is what you NEED TO DO TO FIX things. Find a third person you and your bf both respect, preferably an older friend or parent or counsellor or therapist or minister. Talk with your bf with this person just listening at first, tell him that you don't like feeling "in the wrong no matter what." If he agrees to try to change and trust you more and respect your privacy, THEN GIVE HIM A CHANCE.
If bf thinks he is perfectly right and has done nothing wrong, then you have to accept that he is wrong for you. It will hurt because you have fallen in love with him, but you will be FAR BETTER OFF in the LONG RUN by taking care of yourself, than if you stick around hoping things will get better - THEY WON'T!
2006-06-23 06:34:40 · answer #1 · answered by im_a_fun_nut 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some guys are just way more jealous than others. My boyfriend is like that too; he goes through my things and is always asking questions to keep tabs on me. It bothered me at first but i figure it's just because he cares about me and it's just the way he is. If it really bothers you then you could talk to him about it.
To get him to trust you try calling him when you're not together and be completely honest about where you are and what's going on. Also make sure you tell him that you trust him, but don't lie because that will just cause problems
2006-06-22 13:01:31 · answer #2 · answered by misomeow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy.... uh. Tell him you love hime and that the other guys are just your friends. Go out with him more. Spend more time with him and less with your guy friends, but still have friendly chats now and then with those guy friends... I gues. What? I just a kid! I don't know anything about this stuff! Just do what I say. Nothing to lose right? Eh?
2006-06-22 12:58:16 · answer #3 · answered by DreamXGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want him to trust you do everything he says. Only talk to the people he OKs, wear only the clothes he chooses for you and go only where he says you can when he can.
He still won't trust you but pretty soon you'll be so beaten down from trying to please a jealous jerk who will never trust you that you'll give up and be his puppet; which is what he wants.
2006-06-22 13:50:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is alittle nuts...talk to him and lay it all out..with out trust you have nothing
2006-06-22 12:57:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you got to much drama
2006-06-22 13:07:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋