2006-06-22 12:48:56 · 18 answers · asked by drisco21 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
To qualify as bi, you'll have an attraction for both. What you've got to determine is whether that attraction is stronger for one or the other.
Then you've got to find a partner with whom you are so in love and to whom you are devoted.
The thing is that your partner may not be of the gender to which you thought you had the strongest affinity.
The point I'm making here is that if you are bi there is little point in analysing and rationalising. Throw love into any situation and rationality evaporates.
An earlier respondent suggested why not both? They're right if, and only if, you find partners of a certain temperament, where all three of you have emotional strength and resilience. It is hard enough to work at sustaining a relationship with one person but at least the dynamic is a closed one between you two only. Bring in a third person and the dynamic becomes much more fluid and you'll never truly be a part of the relationship dynamic between the other two participants (what they feel for each other is different to what they feel for each other through you).
I answered a similar question before and I went on to relate the anecdote of the two couples who (I believe) lived apart but had dedicated each to the other - one of them used to use a .sig in his posts that said "this is my husband and these are my two wives" - a quartet! Now that's inspiring.
In summary, let your bi-nature take it's course.
2006-06-22 14:03:23 · answer #1 · answered by unclefrunk 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are 'better suited' for the PERSON you care for most.
Whether it's a guy or a girl really doesn't matter, does it, since you're bi?
2006-06-22 20:07:09 · answer #2 · answered by Spencer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can date either a guy or a girl, look at the person not the outside. If you are really bi then you will always feel atracted to girls and guys, but you will have a real realtionship with one at a time. Bisexauls don't turn striaght or lesbian/gay just because that's who they are dating at that moment.
2006-06-22 23:11:39 · answer #3 · answered by MindStorm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are a boy...then you are better suited for a girlfriend.
If you are a girl...then you are better suited for a boyfriend.
2006-06-22 19:51:27 · answer #4 · answered by sshazzam 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Focus on finding the right person, then notice what sex they are. That's what I did since I wasn't all "I need a girl now" or "I need a boy now". I just found myself attracted to a specific individual. My partner has flipped between men and women about equally.
2006-06-22 21:20:38 · answer #5 · answered by michellesm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to play the field go out with a girl and then a guy. And which every sex you had a better connection and felt more comfortbale with should be the one for you.
2006-06-23 17:09:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will really depend on who you end up with. Everyone has a different personality. Also, if you are bisexual you can date both! You don't have to stick to just boyfriends or just girlfriends.
2006-06-22 19:57:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think bisexual means you like both if I'm not mistaken, so the old adage, go with your heart would be the best advice I could think of.
2006-06-22 19:58:05 · answer #8 · answered by dazednconfused 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you fall in love or lust with a guy, then a boyfriend. if you fall in love or lust with a girl, then a girlfriend. and if both happen at the same time, then try for both. it's that simple.
2006-06-22 19:55:44 · answer #9 · answered by gaygoddevil 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are bi then you are hetrosexual with an urge or perversion if you will. don't act upon your urge as it is carnally rooted. boy+girl= yes, girl+boy=yes
homosexuality in any form is fundamentally flawed and wrong.
good day.
2006-06-22 20:16:07 · answer #10 · answered by frontmann2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋