He considers himself str8, and he is only attracted to women and beautiful tgirls. However, he is trying to talk to me into not getting the final surgery done. He says that he still would stick around either way, but I have many questions in me head.
Will he really stick around?
Will he lose interest?
Anyways, my best friend thinks that I should have not gotten into any relationship during my transition to avoid this kind of things… but it has been so great, and we love each other… But would love keep us together with fulfilling lives?
I don’t know what to do. On the one hand, I know that my body needs to fully align with my mind and soul, and I am really close to it. On the other hand though I hate the idea of loosing my love….
2006-06-22 12:14:07 · 4 answers · asked by SuperJulie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I guess you should ask yourself, do you want him to love you for your body or your heart.
If it is important to go through with the surgery for you to feel complete and like your true self, then you should do it. You have to be true to you.
Good luck
2006-06-22 12:22:38 · answer #1 · answered by Gabrielle 6 · 9⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't already treat you as a woman, then I think it is possible he a) may not be straight and b) may never be fully okay with you becoming who you really are. Clearly, this would point to some serious issues. If he does treat you like the woman you are inside, then maybe he's just squeamish about the surgery itself. Even the most understanding and open-minded guy is going to cringe at something like that.
I know that a GLBT-positive relationship counselor is difficult to find, but you may want to consider seeing one to help get everything out in the open and facilitate communication.
Whatever happens, remember to be true to yourself because love comes and goes, but you always have yourself. Best of luck!
2006-06-22 14:24:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's confusing. If he considers himself straight, why wouldn't he want you to finish your transformation? Have you guys been intimate? cause if he likes sex with women, then he would like it with you after your change, but maybe he's decided that he likes sex with a male, but wants to have someone that looks female. If he says that he'll stay, then take that at face value. Even if things don't end up working out forever, you have to be true to your self, cause in the end, you are all you have. Good luck, and I hope you go through with your change.
2006-06-22 12:22:52 · answer #3 · answered by NoBoysAllowed! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know that is a hard one. Only you know which one's more important to you. Could you sacrifice your whole idea of who you want to be for this person? and could you live with your decision if you chose not to have the op? I think it sounds wise to just really work out which one means more to you, because that is the decision you will have to live with.
2006-06-22 12:26:49 · answer #4 · answered by Zinc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋