Can you fight well, and get to the issue, or do fights always result in name calling and bad feelings?

Answer 1

i definitly think that a fight can turn out good. in the past my boyfriend and i were always in fights. but with the man im with now, we decided that there would be no name caling. usually when you start fighting its not even about what you are upset about. it takes two to figure things out so your partner has to want to change also.

Answer 2

Truthfully there is no such thing as fighting well. If you're fighting then you're trying to win. Name calling is the lowest form of it since it conveys nothing of importance - just hurtful insults. Name calling would be the most immature form of fighting there is. What should be striven for is the ability to express clearly how you feel without insulting or name calling, and also being willing to listen quietly to the other person when it's their turn.

Only relationships that have this survive happily. You have to respect the other person. Of course I'm referring to fights with a loved one here.

Answer 3

My wife & i have been married 42yrs. We have had a few fights in 42 yrs. Some times we yell,ve course each other (we never mean what we say) I have been known to slam a door or two. But when we calm down and think it over we realize it was all noncense. So we kiss and make up. Thats almost worth starting a fight for.

Answer 4

I dont like the word fight i like the word discuss differences of opinions calmly and think before your speak. Do not talk or even say one word when you are mad and upset. Take a break for a bit and breath and then talk when you are both calm. This will cut way down on fighting and yelling and bad feelings.
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Answer 5

Usually in an imature setting, name calling and hurt feelings start fights. Kid fighting kid. The smart person, realizes, that no one ever really wins a fight. One person is bound to get hurt worse than the other. The real challenge is to fight, only to protect yourself, your family or your country.

Answer 6

I fight well using the t.f.a model.(t) thought.(f) feeling. (a) action. If you really take the time out to listen to the other person you'll find out that they are as sick as the hateful words they use.I learned never fight fire with fire it silly and childish. Allowing my self to get caught up in their words only gives them the power to drag me down the same old stupid road. Listen to them allowing your self enough time to process what they have said think about it, what are your feelings about what they said, and what would the best action be.... walk away, or say am sorry you feel that way about the situation,and/or is there any thing we can do (we) to fix things? You can only control your self the best way to fight is check your self.

Answer 7

It's better not to "fight" but rather disagree. However, fighting is part of relationships.

You should discuss the "rules" you want for fights and disagreements.

No names and timeouts when the tempers get heated. Time limits to reach a decision and not going to bed angry. There's also the bonus of "make-up sex" for good agreements.

It's your relationship- you both get to make the rules.

Answer 8

Take it from someone who learned the hard way after 21 years of marriage. (lucky I am going on number 22) Get some counseling, they can show you how to get your point across without the fight. When mine walked out on me and after 10 weeks of counseling I learned to discuss things not argue about them.

Answer 9

Fights will always have something to do with name calling. Fighting can't always slove the problem

Answer 10

I think it depends on maturity of people. I think you can fight well and solve or resolve the issue but you both have to know how to do it or else it ends as you have said.