Or a step to maturity?
2006-06-22 12:05:51 · 26 answers · asked by Ned 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
i duno...im still clean, and i think ima keep it that way for some time
2006-06-22 12:07:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
At the time I felt it was a step towards maturity, but I married someone who always resented the fact that I had a sexual past. So, it turned out to be a loss as well. Now that I am single again, the only thing that I feel was a loss is the time I spent with the husband!
2006-06-22 12:08:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that's a really good question! For me, it was a loss (due to the unpleasant circumstances) but it was a step towards maturity, too, because I had to realize the thing I had been trying to preserve was gone and it won't be coming back.
Gee, is that really an answer?
2006-06-22 12:12:43 · answer #3 · answered by california_gurl16 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I didn't (and for me, still don't) see it as a step towards maturity. It wasn't exactly a "loss" in the sense that afterward I felt that something had be taken away from me. But I do know that I shared that intimate experience with someone who didn't love and respect me and that still makes me a bit sad.
2006-06-22 12:28:30 · answer #4 · answered by Church Music Girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did save myself until I fell in love so I do not feel like it was a mistake or a loss in that way. Still, it's irritating that I wasn't my boyfriend's first. I kind of wanted it to be a little more perfect, but not everything can be as I planned it out. I am still glad that I waited as long as I did.
2006-06-22 12:17:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's more a matter of keeping yourself pure for your future mate. Just think, if you are ever going to marry, that person is alive walking around right now. I know I don't want my future husband out sleeping around. I want him saving himself for me. I'm doing the same for him.
The maturity comes into play when you can realize that sex isn't a game and giving yourself away is for real. . .you lose a part of yourself if you lose that person. Be mature enough to keep yourself pure for your mate.
2006-06-22 12:11:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it's a loss if it's not to your spouse. Ask anyone who lost their virginity early on (and look at their eyes when they answer). What do you see? An internal battle where the long term gains were lost to a short term pleasure (very short term for most). I'm not preaching, I made the mistake myself. But I was blessed with an incredible wife who saved herself for me, and it is so wonderful to see in her eyes that she only knows me in such an intimate and powerful way. God blessed her for her faithfulness.
2006-06-22 12:10:03 · answer #7 · answered by officeathlete78 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yap... losing your virginity when u get married is a step to maturity,, but losing your virginity before u get married, is a VERY BIG LOSS.. for a very inmature girl..
2006-06-23 15:07:56 · answer #8 · answered by girly_girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
both... mine was a loss because it was taken from me in a date rape situation, and a step to maturity because I had to face the loss of innocence.
2006-06-22 12:09:13 · answer #9 · answered by KB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A loss and a complete waste on the person I lost it to. I would have waited had I known.
2006-06-22 12:33:42 · answer #10 · answered by BbyGrl80 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Good riddance: it wasn't the best experience, but it taught me a great deal, and made me a far more mature person.
2006-06-22 12:10:19 · answer #11 · answered by Alex G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋