IF YOU ARE IN A COMMITTED RELATIONSHIP, IN YOUR OPINION WOULD HAVING A THREESOME BE DAMAGING TO YOUR RELATIONSHIP? GUYS AND GIRLS MAY ANSWER.
I WANT TO HAVE A THREESOME ME AND MY BOYFRIEND WITH ANOTHER GUY, HE SAYS HE DOESN'T MIND BUT I THINK HE MIGHT IN THE LONG RUN.
2006-06-22 12:00:49 · 45 answers · asked by Melba Toast 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It would depend on your boyfriend.you are the only one who can judge his reaction.I had a threesome with my boyfriend that worked out fine but we were not very jealous and have a very open trusting relationship.if there is any conflict in your relationship i would wait first
2006-06-22 17:12:14 · answer #1 · answered by shadow_queen_123 2 · 8⤊ 4⤋
There is no definite yes or no to this question, but i am in a committed relationship and know exactly what you're going through. my boyfriend and i were going to try, and he said the same thing. but of course all guys care on some level because of the way that they feel about you and the risk of losing you. how it affects the relationship all depends on the two of you and how strongly based the relationship is. have you discussed every aspect of what could and will happen if you two decide to have the threesome? it's all about how the two of you feel and what you want to do. but i don't believe that it will affect the relationship unless you either let it or want it to.
2006-06-22 12:18:38 · answer #2 · answered by curious angel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be stupid. You are ina relationship that is committed. Do you even know what that means. It means you love him and no one else. NO ONE ELSE! Yea he might just go with it and yet at the end of it all when you come home one day and see your husband with the girl or boy doing the nasty in your bed don't get mad just know you wanted a threesome. Not only that that's nasty anyway.
2006-06-22 12:05:50 · answer #3 · answered by junclekitty86 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your in a truely loving and open relationship having a threesome does not nessecarily have damaging results. Some relationships do, but it really comes down to your relationship skills and how well you both communicate, accept, and are honest.
2006-06-22 12:05:02 · answer #4 · answered by m0mmatcat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definately... in the long run it could defeinately lead to insecurities in regards to what you are looking for that he can not or does not provide. Additionally such things also end up being used as ammunition during arguements, regarding a lack of commital, interest in others, or accusations or promiscuity.
Also be prepared for the potentiallity of repayment... if he does for you, he might want you to do for him... hwo do you feel about another woman in the bed.. think about it, and how the request will make you feel.
2006-06-22 12:04:40 · answer #5 · answered by Thomas P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you might think it won't bother you, but it can damage the truyst bon, plus it blurs the line in the exclusivity of the relationship, ,aing him wonder how many other guys you want to be with besides him, and if you are doing it with number 3 behind his back. It can really lead to some serious insecurities in the relationship.
2006-06-22 12:03:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not a good idea, but we all make choices.
If your boyfriend says it's ok, then go for it.
But will you have a threesome with you, another girl and him?
You should do it both ways only to be fair to both of you.
If you won't, then don't have a threesome at all.
2006-06-22 12:40:12 · answer #7 · answered by Wolf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I look at it as an intrusion on the relationship but only if you really take your relationship seriously and plan on long term. Never had a threesome and most definately won't.
2006-06-22 12:07:06 · answer #8 · answered by mother_flower 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Committed or not, there is always the chance of someones feelings being hurt. Whether it be your boyfriends or yours or the other guy...maybe you need to be asking yourself why you want this? Is your boyfriend not enough for you? Maybe hes doing this because he thinks if he don't you wont want him anymore. I think you need to look into your reasons for wanting this and really talk to your man about this before you go ahead. If your on here asking us, then you have issues with it yourself. make sure before you ruin something that you might not be able to get back.
2006-06-22 12:06:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I tne long run, you will also. Eventually you will be called a sl*t by one of them, and you will also loose your self respect for not remaining faithful top your relationship. Your boyfriend will aslo feel this and will eventually begin to no longer trust you. It really is a bad thing. Just break up with him and find another guy. Someday maturity will hit, and you will want to have a faithful commited man in your life.
2006-06-22 12:06:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll tell my story.
I had a threesome with my girlfriend and a good female friend. Since we had no idea why we were really doing it, our actions shocked each other to the point where I destroyed one friendship and damaged the other.
Please think long and hard on this.
2006-06-22 12:03:02 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋