okay well hes mormon so first of all i dont know if thats the reason he hasnt kissed me. ill respect his decision if he doesnt want to but the problem is that everytime i ask him why he doesnt want to get close to me/kiss me he doesnt answer me. what can i do?? what would you do?
2006-06-22 11:48:43 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Ask him directly if it is because of his religious beliefs. Be reassuring when you ask by telling him you respect his beliefs if that is the case. If he still won't answer, he obviously doesn't trust you in some way, and it might be time to move on.
2006-06-22 11:53:10 · answer #1 · answered by Andrew T 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Most Mormon boys will kiss girls, when the time is right. A few believe that even kissing should wait until after marriage. The Church doesn't take a stand on it.
The Church does say that you should be at least 16 before you date, so if he is younger than that he may feel that he should not kiss you yet. I would agree.
I know you consider him to be your boyfriend, but does he consider you his girlfriend?
He sounds really shy. Perhaps this is part of what attracted him to you in the first place. Let the kiss happen naturally, when he feels comfortable with it. You could help this along by letting him get used to your touch, and knowing you won't reject him. Try holding on to his elbow for a little bit every now and then. Don't push yourself on him, some guys are scared or turned off by that. Many men want to be the aggressive ones, and not the girls.
Another thing, Mormon boys are told to look for Mormon girls. He may not want to get romantically involved with you since you are not a Mormon. Also, guys are looking forward to serving a mission at the age of 19. They don't want to do much kissing of girls before then.
2006-06-29 17:14:41 · answer #2 · answered by Doctor 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I actually took quite awhile to kiss my first girlfriend (about a year in fact!) and the reason was that I wanted her to know that our relationship wasn't based on physical affection. Also, we had no trouble showing each other that we cared without kissing, so I thought I would just take my time and try to wait for the PERFECT moment. I'm kinda a hopeless romantic, and maybe he is too. Maybe he just wants it to be perfect. Watch for opportunities, too. When you think it would be a good time, give him the look. You know, the one that says "kiss me, you fool! I'm way too beautiful for you to ignore my lucious lips any longer!" As far as all these people suggesting he's gay, that's rediculous. Just because a guy doesn't leap at every chance to act out his lustful desires does not make him gay or a bad boyfriend. Also, make sure he knows that you don't NEED him to kiss you, but you are just wondering if something's wrong or why it hasn't happened yet because most people are much further after a year. No worries, though, I've now been dating my gorgeous girlfriend for about 2 1/2 years now, and there's PLENTY of kissing. ;)
2006-06-22 19:14:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your boyfriend will not answer your question of "why won't you kiss me," then it seems that the relationship that you two have isn't as strong as you may think. I'm not saying he should be forced to do something he doesn't want to do, I just mean that he should respect you enough to give you a straight answer. You should tell him so. It is great that you respect him and not force him, but what you should consider is your needs. And it seems that your needs are a little more physical contact. If he can't give you those needs, there are plenty more guys out there that would love to.
2006-06-22 19:15:21 · answer #4 · answered by Heather 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...if your wanting more than he is willing to give, he's not for you. Thats wonderful that you respect his descion. But ive never heard of a guy turning down a kiss from his own girlfriend or even get close to you, maybe he's gay?
2006-06-22 18:54:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't have to get your boyfriend to kiss you. It should happen naturally. Apparently, he is still with you, so there must be something there that he likes about you. I do believe that he should answer you, so that you can better understand the situation or his decision in not kissing you yet.
2006-06-22 19:13:23 · answer #6 · answered by Guru Sharma Prasad 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could lean in and if he leans in then theres a kiss, but if he doesnt just say u thought there was something on his face. Maybe hes thinking the same thing.
2006-06-22 18:56:57 · answer #7 · answered by Leslie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well girl most of it can be his religion but a kiss is just a kiss . He should at least give a simple peak or a good excuse . If that keeps on going on you know what leave him cuz something is wrong there .
2006-06-22 18:59:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have a friend who is mormon and he told me that in there religion there not alowed to have a girl friend till there 16 so that could be it if he is under 16 but there religon is important them and atleast respect that but he will come around soon just wait it out and the time will come
2006-06-22 19:04:26 · answer #9 · answered by Robbie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hang n there it will happen when u and him r ready but if u want 2 make it happen faster then u take the first step dont wait 4 him good luck
2006-06-22 21:19:59 · answer #10 · answered by sweettart1325 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋