I've been in a relationship with this guy for about a month.We never had sex before.Actually I never had sex with anyone.One day he slept over my house.He was on the couch and I was in my room. I was naked and just about to put my nightshirt on when he walked in with only boxers on and one hand behind his back.He locked the door behind him.I covered up with a blanket but he ripped it out of my hands. I tried to run out the door but he grabbed me and pushed me down on the bed. In the hand that was behind his back was four straps.He tied my arms and legs to the bed. At that moment I sort of wanted to have sex with him because we were bf and gf but I regreted even thinking about it when he pulled his boxers off.His penis was so big it wouldn't even fit in my mouth! He stuck it in my vagina so hard and fast and so deep that it really,really hurt bad! It started to bleed and hurt more.Then he untied one arm and left.I got untied,took a shower,and went to bed.
Is it rape or not?
2006-06-22 11:34:38 · 57 answers · asked by Chrisie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
P.S. Why did my vagina bleed and hurt so bad? Also, what should I do about my bf?
HELP ME!
2006-06-22 11:36:39 · update #1
P.S. again. I told him NO and STOP about a million times!
2006-06-22 11:39:49 · update #2
Yep
2006-06-22 11:36:36 · answer #1 · answered by ~Sinfully~Exquisite~Stalking~ 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If at any point you told him no,then yes most people would consider that rape.You would think that if he knew you had never been with someone before that he would have went about it a different way.That fact that there were straps in his hands when he entered the room,he obviously was prepared for what he was about to do.You should call a Rape Counseling center and talk to someone there.It's totally confidential and you can talk about whatever you want.Please try to get some sort of help with this because if you don't you may regret it later.I know a couple of women who have been raped,one of them produced a child,and one got help,the other did not.The one that didn't is still having problems with the fact that she never did.The one that did get help.she's doing okay.I mean you never get over it but you just try to go day by day and try to get other women to come forward
2006-06-22 11:46:16 · answer #2 · answered by dismalrelic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, this is considered rape. You really need to seek help by telling your mom or another trusted adult what happened. If nothing else you should call the rape crisis line for your area.
A national number is 1-800-656-hope.
You can also visit www.rainn.org.
Also, you started to bleed because it was your first time and there is a thin lining there that broke which caused you to bleed. It hurt because it was forced, first time, and etc.
You should get out that relationship asap and go to the police about him.
2006-06-26 14:54:27 · answer #3 · answered by angeleyes39042 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is definitely rape! You should tell your parents right away! Just because he didnt beat you up... he still hurt you and you didnt say you wanted him to tie you up like an animal! He needs to be punished because he is not in control of your body or any one elses and if he did that... he is capable of doing a lot worse and that is no joke! He will hurt you again if you do nothing. Tell someone and get to the doctor right away, the bleeding is probly because your a virgin and it is normal for a woman to bleed some her first time... but if there was a lot of blood and pain....REGARDLESS... you should go get checked for pregnancy, vinereal disease or any other damage. Stay away from him and ask your friends and family for help! Good Luck.
2006-06-22 11:49:54 · answer #4 · answered by Brandy A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, since you guys are gf and bf, it kinda would not be rape. But also, when he tied your arms and legs to the bed, it would possibly mean it is rape. But girl, here's a little advice. If he does that kinda thing again, then break up wit 'em. 'Cause it's kinda like teenage abuse. Oh yea there's also a reason for that because he just had sex with you and left you without saying' a word and untied one arm of yours, so yea, HELL YEA IT'S RAPE BY A BF OF YOURS.Be careful girl out there 'kay? Just tell your bf, that if he does that again, you tell him what you need to tell him. Be brave when you talk to him OK? If you think he's bad for you, then break up wit 'em. And hopefully that you are OK? So... yea see ya!
2006-06-22 11:42:45 · answer #5 · answered by Domo_arigato_kayo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that he tied you and force his entry that's considered rape, you mentioned you try to run that's an indication that there is resistance.
Your Vagina bleeds and it hurt because. there is no mental preparation and foreplay, you cannot just go naked and insert your penis, guys need to do something before going that far.
even married couple if wife disagree having sex and the partner force the activity it is considered rape.
If you don't like what happen you can go to court.
2006-06-22 11:49:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, this is rape! It was without your consent. It is an act of violence. You should report this. Then get another boyfriend. This is a male that does not respect YOU as a person. It sounds like he was prepared. He may have a history of doing this to women. Please don't stay with someone that would treat you in such a brutal manner.
To address your second question, you (your body) was not ready to have sexual relations. Your vagina was not moist enough, and that is why the damage occurred and you bled.
I encourage you to get an AIDS test, and other STD's. Again, this may be a pattern with him, and he may have been infected by one of his victims.
2006-06-22 11:49:20 · answer #7 · answered by Ja Le M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
properly because he's mentally challenged it ought to't be seen rape. yet nonetheless you need to tell a doctor or police or some thing. easily no longer to exhibit, because what he's doing is incorrect. also you need to search for this on google like less than the rape component of a regulation.
2016-11-15 03:28:55 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, was it consentual, did you want to have sex with him that moment. And during the time he was on top of you or inside you, did you tell him to stop. If you did any of these then it was rape. Regardless if he is your boyfriend he doesn't own your body and he took your virginity without your consent. By him being so big he rupture your vaginal walls sent this was your first time. You needed to go to a hospital because that could lead to other medical problems. You could have been turned on by him doing this but you wouldn't have resulted to asking this question to the public. You was RAPED!!!! You must not allow him to continue this. If worse comes to worse report him to the authorties.
2006-06-22 11:47:37 · answer #9 · answered by DreDay 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well did u give him any hint that u did not want to have intercourse? If not then how was he supposed to know that u didn't want it? but it sounds like to me that u were raped. to bad u took a shower because if u had went to the police they could have done a rape kit and collected some evidence. Now its just ur word against his. I hope you are ok. Because rapes can be traumatizing to alot of people and cause some emotional problems with other relationships.
WHY DID HE SPEND THE NIGHT?
2006-06-22 11:44:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you did not consent to sex, and if he was forceful and apparently uncaring as to how you felt about this situation, then yes! it was rape.
You don't say if he orgasmed or wore a condom - I hope for your sake he did.
You should NOT see this person anymore - not if he is going to do this to you - he has problems. If he tries to approach you, you should call the police on him - he is sick - you should even report him, but that is up to you.
Just make certain that you keep far away from him.
2006-06-22 11:39:48 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋