She only wants to have it only 1 or 2 times a month.
2006-06-22 11:28:40 · 16 answers · asked by jack rabbit 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Quit being the moth.
Be the flame.
2006-06-24 05:14:58 · answer #1 · answered by R J 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If only it were as easy as all these answers suggest. I've been dealing with the same issue with my wife for years. Near as I can figure is that she doesn't like to acknowlege the wife role because it betrays the mother role. Do you have kids? That might be the issue. If not, has she always been like this? If so, you are probably in for a long haul. Unless she sees it as a problem, she has no incentive to do anything about it. She may need testosterone or estrogen therapy, or may have some sexual trauma in her past that makes it difficult for her to enjoy sex.
Ask her this question and see what she says. It may be as simple as doing more around the house to help her. Women (and good hubbys) know that sex begins in the kitchen, so make sure you're doing your share. A clean house can do wonders for a woman's libido, especially if she hasn't spent all day cleaning it. She's the best source of what gets her in the mood, not a bunch of strangers on the internet! It could be that she doesn't know why she's not "in the mood" more. My wife says she doesn't know why, she just isn't. I take her at her word, but that doesn't help me at all! You may need to go to a marriage counselor to solve this one.
Good luck!
2006-06-22 19:21:05 · answer #2 · answered by Judgie C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This will need to be worked on out of bed first. Start with saying nice things to her, you know her best but some examples are-
Tell her how nice she looks
Tell her how life would be incomplete without her
Tell her how lucky you (& the kids) are to hve her
Tell her what she means to you
Get the picture? Use your imangintion, you know her best and her likes & dislikes.
You will also need to romance her by doing little things, it really is the little things that mean a lot to women!! Here are some examples of "little" things you could do-
Sing her a love song, to the radio is fine
Write her a poem & recite it to her
Write her a love letter every now & then
Buy or even better, pick her some flowers
Take her to dinner, the club or the local corner bar
Get her attention again, the way it was in the begining!! Good luck!!
PS
I do a lotta "little" things & my boyfriend loves it. I'll send him text messages on his cell phone while he's away, usually at work. Sometimes just a simple I Love You, or I might tell him how lucky I am to have him & sometimes I even send naughty one's. ;-)
I also write him love letters & put them in places where he will find them when he's least expecting it. Places like his folded jeans, jacket or shirt pocket, in his underware drawer, in his lunch cooler. I even once taped a love letter to the ceiling over the shower knowing he'd see it as he was washing his hair & he did,.
I have bought a bottle of wine, massage oils & a nice card & left it in his truck while he was at work.
Use your imanigation & I bet she will "give it up" much more often!! And I do agree with the response above about find the clit!! Pleasure her!!
2006-06-22 19:22:35 · answer #3 · answered by maryannmccarthy2003 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just got the game Naughty Nights from a "Slumber Party." It's a good game that lasts all year. You choose a card once a week and it's either a for him or for her card...whoever gets drawn scratches off the card and then has to follow it's instructions which is meant to please the other person. You should see if there are any slumber parties in your area and get her to go. It's just for girls and isn't perverted or anything (no touching). A lady just shows you all kinds of different creams, tips, games and toys. It's kinda like a sex store, but much more fun and comfortable because you are there with other girls.
www.slumberparties.com HTH!! Good luck!
2006-06-22 18:40:40 · answer #4 · answered by momof2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her out on a date - do some things that she likes to do. Get all dressed up - but don't expect sex - it will come later.
If you are out of shape - start shaping up.
Wash the dishes, vacuum the house, do some laundry - if you don't know how, ask her to show you (they like doing stuff with their guys)- make dinner together.
Go for a walk after dinner and hold her hand or put her hand on your arm. Then T-A-L-K
Do what you did when you were dating her (winning her heart). Call her during the day and ask her if she is busy on X night. Then set up plans for a movie or theater then on to dinner.
Send her a bouquet of flowers to be delivered during the day (morning is best)
Romance her - make her feel special and loved.
2006-06-22 19:05:03 · answer #5 · answered by Wolf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
work more on pleasing her the next time you have sex. She's most likely not getting the satisfaction from sex that you are. Guys always get theirs but you have to work for a womans pleasure. If that doesn't work find the guy she's banging and ask him.lol j/k
2006-06-22 18:34:27 · answer #6 · answered by DC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you asked her this question? Maybe sex for her has gotten to boring or routine, there has to be a reason....Ask :-) Make sure you ask at the right time too...not just randomly.
2006-06-22 18:32:41 · answer #7 · answered by Aimee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go out of town alone on business trips. She'll have a lot more sex!
2006-06-22 23:24:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good luck with that. All the womans books say its the man who loses interest, but it is always the women, I feel for you.
2006-06-22 18:33:22 · answer #9 · answered by psycmikev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make her some nice mixed drinks like screwdrivers (vodka with orange juice). That will set the mood for it
2006-06-22 18:32:57 · answer #10 · answered by Laugh-n-fart 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋