My dad (52) was thrown out by his 21 y.o g/f almost a yr ago. My father was a deadbeat all of my life and I moved, co-signed on a school loan in order to get him out of my house. He has defaulted on the loan and is back at my new home.Did I mention he is diabetic and eats non stop, has sleep apnea (sleeps all day in my living room) farts/burps loudly and often and has very annoying habits like talking whie I try to study or on the phone. I am a single parent of three and a f/t universtiy student. I have asked him to leave and he rationalize his being here and just stays and will borrow money for gas to get to his "jobs". I know I am not dealing w/ a personw/ a full deck b/c he talks about how much he did for me as a baby, things he knows I have no recollection of (Neither of my parents raised me). I just want my house back I will do anything to get him off of my couch, out of my refrigerator, and my pockets. Doyou know of any slick ways to dumpmy xtra child?
2006-06-22 11:22:40 · 10 answers · asked by nene 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Move! And don't leave a forwarding address. This may sound like a wise crack, but I honestly have heard of parents doing this because they could not get their out of school kids to move away from home. They moved to a new place, told their children it was not big enough for all of them, and they had to go their own way.
2006-06-22 11:31:37 · answer #1 · answered by smplyme132 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's about as challenging a problem as I've ever read on this board. It's not going to be emotionally easy. Essentially he is in your home as a guest, similar to that of a renter. He can be processed out the same way as an eviction, but it's a long process of giving ample warning, service in writing, etc. It will play on your emotions the whole time and he'll make you feel quite guilty and I'm not convinced it's even a best way to proceed. But a father who had a 21 year old gf and id all that you describe, is someone I don't imagine you can just have a come-to-jesus talk to either and take a rational approach, because you've done that a 100 times already. Is there someone in your family or extended family that you collaborate with? A contact with a social service agency in your area to pose the problem and ask if they can point you in a direction of help? In the end, it sounds like you will need to compel him to leave, and it won't be pleasant for you, but I can't see any other way. I'll be very interested in reading other writer's responses on this one.
2006-06-22 11:32:28 · answer #2 · answered by nothing 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you live in an apartment, have the manager write you a letter telling you "your house guest is not on your lease and you have to move or he does because you are breaking the lease, and it's too late to add this person on your lease."
Or try having different family members shame him into leaving.
Option 3- look for a place for him to live and tell him he has "x" amount of days to leave. He will get angry, but at least he'll be out of your house. If he can be a deadbeat dad, you are allowed to kick your father OUT without feeling guilty.
2006-06-22 11:33:25 · answer #3 · answered by Lady Libra 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take away all of his conforts. Whatever he enjoys remove it. Don't keep food in the house. Telephone needs to be removed when you are out of the house. No access to Cable/TV or radio. Have social workers come by daily to question him. Create a very unconfortable situation for him. And stop giving him money!!!!
2006-06-22 11:37:53 · answer #4 · answered by DreDay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have any brothers or sisters tell them it's their turn. If not your going to have to talk to your Dad and tell him he's either got to change his ways and start paying rent and helping around the house or he's out. Your Dad should not be using a guilt trip on you. Make him help with the bills or get out...Good Luck
2006-06-22 11:35:18 · answer #5 · answered by ras4_us 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call your parents and ask for their advise, let them know what he is doing. I'm sure they'll give you support, and probably help on getting him out, when you tell them about the bathroom tricks, what's next a trip to your bedroom?
2016-03-27 01:23:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget about being slick, take charge of your house and boot him out. You don't owe him anything.
2006-06-22 16:08:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you let his rationalizing get in the way. explain the situation to him. tell there are no ands, ifs , or buts.you gotta go. so what if he did a lot for you as a baby. that was his job. don't let him talk his way back in.
2006-06-22 11:41:57 · answer #8 · answered by ELIZABETH B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they r a house guest, just that.! boot their *** out!!!
2006-06-22 11:25:23 · answer #9 · answered by Kasey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get him a new booty
2006-06-22 11:29:54 · answer #10 · answered by QUEEN OF LOS ANGELES 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋